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writes:my boyfriend has ended it with me we split 5 weeks ago. he said he needed space and he couldnt give me what i wanted. he said i put to much pressure on him and to be honest i did at times. i asked him to marry me, but i later said i was sorry. ive been texting him and went to see him twice. both times he cried and said he couldnt promise nothing. he said we both werent thinking straight, but said i shouldnt build my hopes up too much. but if i dont text him for a long time he texts. he told me he cares. i really love him and want him back he suffers from depression.
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reader, mwest  +, writes (26 July 2007):
I have to agree with flower girl on this as well. My ex is not really being treated for his depression as he doesn't talk to somebody about it but he does take meds for that and his anxiety though. He has a real hard time opening up to anybody including his family. He's probably really confused right now on what decisions to make and what he wants and that is why he probably feels like he's not worthy of you because of the depression that he is suffering from. He doesn't want to bring you down because of the way he is feeling. All you can really do, is support his decision that he has made and be there for him as a friend. If that is too painful for you like it was for me, then you have to cut ties until you feel better. Always look out for yourself first. Your happiness is more important.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Is he being treated for the depression?, if not until that is sorted it is best to just give him his space.
I am suffering with depression myself and being treated for it, but believe me until it's treated not a lot makes sense and you don't really know what or who you want.
Take care.xx.
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reader, CHASEY +, writes (26 July 2007):
CHASEY is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthat is so nice of you we were together 18months and it is hard because i find myself constantly wanting to see him do you get like that
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reader, mwest +, writes (26 July 2007):
You are going through the same exact thing that I'm going through right now. My boyfriend broke up with me for a second time 3 months ago because he's afraid of commitment and feels like I deserve better. He suffers from depression and anxiety. He tells me all the time that he cares about me still and if I ever need to talk that I can call him whenever I need to. I ended contact with him for a 4th time last week as I can't be friends with him, not now anyway. I love my ex very much still and its so hard not to talk to him anymore. How long were you two together?My advice to you is, give him the space he needs and let him come to you mostly. If you feel like you need to text him, make it simple. Be his friend and just go with the flow. If its meant to be, you two will be together again but don't wait around for him either. Go out with your friends or do things that you enjoy by yourself. Always put yourself first and the rest will fall into place. Good luck and if you need me, you know where to find me!
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