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writes: My BF broke up with me and everything is so unfair, I didn't do anything!!!A couple of years ago I met this obnoxious guy, he had a crush on me, but he also had a crush on several more girls.Then i met my BF and we started dating. My BF was always jealous of this guy so I stopped talking to himThis is a small town, and now my BF broke up with me because the obnoxious guy talked to one of my BF's friends and told him he still had a crush on me, so the friend of my BF told my BF and now he broke up with me.What to do??? Should I confront obnoxious guy? Should I give my BF time to think it through?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): This is rather odd.....It doesn't really seem like your boyfriend cares for you all that much if he's willing to give you up at the snap of SOMEONE ELSE'S fingers.Maybe he just wanted an excuse to break up with you? It's not like you provoked this weird guy into liking you..in fact you tried your best and he still broke up with you?And what's with all this "he says, she says" stuff? Maybe you're boyfriend's friend is just trying to cause problems between you two?
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reader, To Understand  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 heyyy,
it seems to me that your boyfriend feels threatened by this guy who has a crush on you and feels like he may loose you to him.
but hes gone about the situation the wrong way, i would advise you to talk to your boyfriend explaining your feelings as this is obviously upsetting and confusing to you.
the best thing to do is to talk it through.
if your realy are intrested in your boyfriend youve got to tell him how you feel and i know everyone says that but it realy is the best thing to do.
also i think you need to let the obnoxious guy know his place and make sure that your boyfriend knows that he realy is the one for you.
x :) x
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reader, heartofire77  +, writes (14 May 2008):
I think first you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him you have no feelings for this guy, if you did you would not have dated him in the first place. You must no that in order to have a good and trusting relationship, jealousy can not be in the picture. It causes a lot of strain on the relationship, i know i have experience with a similar situation. Then confront the obnoxious guy, and tell him you know he has a crush on you but you dont feel for him. Make sure your not giving off mixed signals to your boyfriend, don't tell him you have no feelings for obnoxious then hang out with him. You might even want the two guys to speak to each other in a civil manner so they can get things strait. Well if you need anyone to talk to just let me know.
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