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writes:Okay i need bit of advice.baically i been like best friends with this guy for most of my life. We both swim for the same club and have always been very close, in the wa we would have sleepovers together and nothing ever thought of it.but yeah recently i kept thinking i was starting to get feelings for him, but was still a bit confused and passed it off.Last night there was a big party at the club we swim for, no alcohol or anything. basically we went out of the main room and were sat in a little room, had a bit of a chat and a hug etc. then we sort of kissed. I left pretty soon after that so it didnt matter, but im really worried about seeing him tomorow, i worried it be akward and its never become akward between us for over like 12yrs.He is the bestest friend you could ask for, but i just dont understand what happened, i know its not a big deal.. but i dont want it to wreck our friendship or anthing.any advice as to what to do or say please. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I think it's cute ^_^
Just try not to think about it when you're around him. If HE mentions it, ask him how he feels about what happened.
Other than that, nothing negative should really happen anyways. He seems like a nice guy!
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (14 May 2008):
 I'd start by acting as though nothing unusual had happened, and leave it all to him to say or do anything. Maybe that makes me a coward!
But you are right. It's not a big deal. At least, it's not necessarily a big deal, unless both of you want to make it a big deal. Take it very, very slowly, and with luck and care even if the "relationship" doesn't happen or doesn't work out, then the friendship will outlast it.
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reader, dreamingwithabrokenheart  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Well I can't really speculate what will happen since you haven't seen him yet. Update once you see him tomorrow.
As for how to act tomorrow, if you are unsure about it then I would just act as normally as possible. Gauge your actions around him based upon his towards you.
It could be possible that he just kissed you in the 'heat of the moment', and because you are someone for whom he cares a lot as a friend so it was safe and comfortable for him. And if he has no feelings for you then now he might be thinking of you sort of like a sister to him. The only way for him to judge whether or not you are more like a sister or a girl he might like was to actually kiss. If this is the case he will probably be freaked out if you act like you are into him.
Then on the other hand it could also be possible he's always or has had feelings for you a while and is now acting on it because the situation was right. He might have previously been unsure how you felt but that given the 'intimate' circumstances thought the time was right. If this is the case then he will likely be judging how you act around him to see if you are into him too.
So yea, basically I don't really know what to say since you haven't seen him yet.
If it turns out that he's not into you try not to be too upset -remember you didn't even really think you had feelings for him until you kissed! Good luck!!
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (14 May 2008):
 It takes two to tango hun.
Of course that saying isn't usually used about kissing but nevertheless its the same princibles. He kissed you back, so maybe he has feelings for you. Maybe it was just a kiss. Who knows?
So when you next see him, if you dnt want it to be awkward, make it into a joke as in:
'Haha! Cant believe we did that friday night.. it was good though'
Or maybe you could ask him if it meant anything.
Chances are he feels the same.
If not I doubt you will wreck a bond that is as strong as yours is.
Good luck, and message me if you wanna talk
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