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writes: I am 15 years old and so is my boyfriend. My boyfriend gave me my first real kiss. I have been worried about kissing guys but with him it just felt right. I really do care about him and he cares about me. I haven't seen him for almost 2 weeks. We live in two different towns but it only takes 5 minutes for me to get to his house. He broke up with me yesterday. Now he is my ex-boyfriend. He says that he still does like me and I am the only girl he has feelings for. I feel the same way. I just don't want to see him with another girl and I don't want to like any other guy. I cannot get him out of my mind. We still talk every day on the phone and I am planning on hanging out with him tomorrow. He told me that the break up had nothing to do with me and that he is busy with sports every day after school and we aren't able to hang out as much as we want to. Last night he told me that I am incredible and he says that I deserve nothing but the best and he can't give that to me. What does he mean by this? He is not ready for a serious relationship I guess. I usually ask my friends for advice when things happen like this. My sister told me to try and get him jealous, like if he tries to kiss me I should back away from him. How do I get him to want a relationship again? I don't mind kissing (making out) with him but it feels so much better when I know that we are together or boyfriend and girlfriend. I tell him how I feel and he told me that all relationships he has had with someone from another town end with someone getting hurt and that he doesn't want to hurt me and wait for me to grow more feelings for him. My ex-boyfriend aslo said that he doesn't know what will happen in the future but as of now it is stressful because we both can't drive. He tells me he still does like me a lot but doesn't want to hurt me. I don't really want to kiss him now that we are not going out. Should I not kiss him? I want to make him want me back but what do I do?If you have any advice can you please tell me? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): Manipulating people is not nice - don't do it. If you aren't comfortable with kissing someone you aren't dating, you don't need to do that either, especially if it's for manipulative purposes (see above).
Sad to say, but if your boyfriend really is deeply involved with school and sports and can't be in the same town as you, it may not be worthwhile for either of you to be a couple. His perspective is pretty mature in that vein. However, if you're both 15, can't you get your (beginner's) licenses pretty soon? One of you must have a birthday coming up, and if you want to be really nuts I believe you can even do all your driving school in time to do your driver's test the day you turn 16. Look into it.
Lastly, if things don't work out, just relax. It may seem an eternity away, but there'll be a time when you'll meet more nice boys to date who are more conveniently situated.
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