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writes:Dear Cupid: My boyfriend and I been together for 5 years. I make 3X money of what he does, and that is now, cause before he used to make none 'cause he was in school. Therefore I would pay for a lot of things, like restarant, plane ticket, car, hotel etc. I don't mind 'cause I know he can't afford it; but last year he borrowed $2000 from me and he's still hasn't paid me. I never ask him about that money, but today I reminded him that he owed me that money and he got mad. The way he talked to me made me feel like if I was this person who always think of money and that money is what matters, which is not true. I feel bad now, and I don't know how to react. I don't even need that money back, but the debt is there. Should I forget about the money, and not ask for it ever again. Him and I are different in that sense, I don't ask for no money, and if I do, I will try my best to return it as soon as possible. I hate to owe money, I don't have any debts except for my school loan and my mortagage, I dont carry any credit card debts. He, on the other hand, has a lot of debt, and I am even helping him with that......what do I do?...
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (21 March 2008):
 you have been made a tool of and he knows he can talk to you like shit beacuse you wont get you money back if you dont kiss his ass.
he does not respect you
the only difference between you and a mom figure is that he wouldn't have sex with a mom figure (do you two have sex anymore?). you need to find a kerb and kick him to it
amen! mercy
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reader, Skeez +, writes (17 March 2008):
 mmm you seem to be right in the middle of this pickle.
He seems very dependant on you and your money. Have you ever thought that perhaps hes only interested in your money? and thinks your easy becuase you buy him everything.
I believe if he gets angry at the fact that you asked HIM for your own money, hes a sleeze and has got it twisted in his head thinking that your the one that has to pay for HIM rather then the otherway round ever and he gets offended when you ask him for it. If he loved you, he would say something about the money to you nicely like 'Oh im sorry darling, I will try and get you the money as soon as ive paid off my debts' and etc.
I thnk you should just confront him about this. Say you will help him with his money problems, but wont give him any more money until he starts paying up, or at least says he will get it soughted as soon as possible. Dont give any more of your money away doll.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (17 March 2008):
 OMG Do you have SUCKER written accross your forehead ??????
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reader, A2020 +, writes (17 March 2008):
 you should test him .. if he gets mad everytime you ask for your money its because he does not have it... if you talk to him and tell him you really need it do you have any of it... it could be 400 from the 2,000 get something out of it... little by little... if you borrowed your money with out telling you when he was going to pay you back that was not good .. but we guys do play dumn but if he loves you he will work to get it back because it is your money and you need it.... period.. he can always borrow and get 1/2 of it....
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