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writes:I have been dating this man for a while. Lately he's assuming I am sleeping with another man. I am not! However he said, "it's o.k. with me, believe me!"How am I suppose to take that? Confused and Frustrated? Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 Seems to me he is either cheating himself or considering it. I think its time you and he had a serious talk to get to the bottom of this, ask him why and what evidence he has to assume you are cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): I dont wish to assume but it sounds like he may be doing some cheating himself. No man who cares for you is going to be ok with that thought unless he's doing it himslef or has already done it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 He is probably sending you a signal that he has or is still or if it were to happen in the future,you should also accept it.
He is stating his stand on this issue or he could just be fishing for some info from you .
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 It's hard to say without hearing his tone, but I'm assuming he loves and cares about you before this comment was made. And on that assumption, I think he said it because he is scared you are cheating. But rather than feel stupid he is going to try to act like he doesn't care either way if you did or not. He has his guard up and won't admit you cheating would crush him and he is protecting himself. And if you were cheating then he would feel ridiculous being the one putting himself out there with how much he loves you. Get it? I don't know if I explained it as well as I tried. Although he may not care, I really don't know his behavior. But he sounds a lot like my just recent ex. Anytime he was afraid he was going to get hurt he pretty much "didn't care". For instance he first said I love you, I responded that I did not feel the same way right now. His response back was- well now that you say it I am kind of unsure...- lol. It could be something altogether with your boyfriend, but it sounds like the same thing to me, trying to protect himself from getting hurt...
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