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*dorableAlyssa
writes: So about two weeks ago I was told by one of my bestfriends, that a previous rumor I heard about my boyfriend of 6 months was true. He had slept with my "bestfriend" of four years three or four times. I had confronted both of them about a month ago about it, and they both completly denied it to my face. I trusted both of them completly and have no idea what to do. I love him, and im so hurt by her. Advide?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): Do you have any feelings yourself - seriously, women's intuition - that cause you to believe/disbelieve that initial rumor? Something about the personalities and actions of all three people (bf, bestfrend and informer) that can lead you to believe one account over the other? Think on how your bf and friend have behaved, with you and each other, and go with your gut instincts.
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reader, Marlie  +, writes (1 September 2008):
Umm, the only thing I can suggest to you is what I would do.
Get everyone involved together and just point blank ask them about it one final time with everyone present. Don't tell them what you want to talk to them about til they are all there.
I would want to know why whoever said what. If it's not true I would want to know why one of my best friends would say it is, and if it is true... I don't know. Do try to keep your composure.
Try and tackle it with an attitude of: "I want to understand what is going on, so I need you to tell me," instead of, "I'm hurt and it's all your fault."
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): I bet this is pretty hard on you, but you've got to hold on because the truth hasn't been revieled. If you confronted them with it and they denied it. Maybe it's not true, because if it was and they did want to be together, they would have said "yes it's true" so they get rid of you and finally be together. I know this is a little harsh but you have to be strong and ask them again.
Good luck!
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