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writes:my boyfriend and i were together for about a year and living together for about 8 months. we had recently broken up for a week and then got back together. everything was great at first i mean we were gonna get a new place together and he was so loving then things changed and went right back to what they used to be. we got in a huge fight one night and it ended badly. he left and went to stay at a friends who already has a roomate and lives in a small one bedroom apartment.now its almost been a month and he still hasnt come home. we do talk he does answer the phone when i call. about two weeks ago he sounded like there was a possibility that he might come back. then his attutide changed all of a sudden.. he still wants to sleep with me i dont give in but in his drunken words says he has no feelings for me and hes not coming back then changes to maybe ill consider it.he would call me while i was out with friends saying where are you who are you with etc. he hasnt come and gotten the rest of his stuff and were still on the same phone bill nor has he given me back the key to our place. i would think if he really wanted to be over he would have taken everything and got his phone in his name so that i couldnt see who he was calling...i know hes not seeing anyone else and there is no one else im so confused i want to move on but hold on to that he might come back because i do miss him... i dont know what to do is there any hope ? any suggustions would be great.!!
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reader, loria  +, writes (12 July 2008):
i did the very same thing for 5 years and its took me 7 to get over it and i still have scars that reappear from time to time what you have to realize is that your responsible for you and if you dont love yourself nobody else can change the locks cancel the phone send him a message and tell him that when he can be the man you need and most inportantly DESERVE come and get me but until that time you should be on your own focus on you and loving yourself and find a book that changed my life Woman who love to much. Im telling you the price is real high when you do it day in and day out my heart cries for you I know how hard it is but is this easy no LOVE YOURSELF MORE good luck
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reader, loria +, writes (12 July 2008):
i did the very same thing for 5 years and its took me 7 to get over it and i still have scars that reappear from time to time what you have to realize is that your responsible for you and if you dont love yourself nobody else can change the locks cancel the phone send him a message and tell him that when he can be the man you need and most inportantly DESERVE come and get me but until that time you should be on your own focus on you and loving yourself and find a book that changed my life Woman who love to much. Im telling you the price is real high when you do it day in and day out my heart cries for you I know how hard it is but is this easy no LOVE YOURSELF MORE good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Why don't you call him up, when hes sober, and say look this is your last chance or I'm moving on.
I know its going to hurt, but you need to make a decision and stick to it so you don't waste time clinging onto hope and finding yourself so far into the hole that you can't get out. Don't just sit there and wait to hit the bottom, because theres any lengths to how far the hole can go. Start trying to claw out now.
If he doesn't want to, then tell him to get his stuff and go. Or alternatively, if he refuses, drive them to his. If he wants to get back together with you, I'd seriously count this the last chance. Because to be fair, I think your future husbands still out there somewhere, and this just being another guy on the list before you find the man that'll love you forever.
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