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writes:My boyfriend doesn't put any effort into our relaionship. We really like each other, but we seem to be waiting on the other to act first and it's pulling us apart. He doesn't touch me unless we are alone and that rarely happens. And we have never gone on a date, we've tried a few times, but it doesn't work out. We see eachother 4 times a week at basketball practice, so it's hard to get any privacy. I'm too scared to call him because there might be nothing to talk about. We are pretty much just friends with benefits right now... I don't know what to do about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2011): Take the risk of asking to see him alone first. Ask him out on a date. He might feel the same way you do and it might encourage him to start doing the same.If you've already tried this and he remains uninterested in the relationship, then I would say, you are not his girlfriend, he is not you boyfriend, and I would get out this relationship. Talk to him about it the next time you are alone, tell him you don't really want the relationship to continue the way it is now. Tell him you like him and are interested, but he's not interested in you and so you don't want to waste your time. You would be happier on your own rather than worrying about when he's going to show some affection. Next time, don't have sex with someone you don't really know or can't talk to easily. Wait till you have a real relationship with the other person first.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Call him and talk to him. Why even consider yourself dating if you can't even talk to each other? That's not right. Communication is the number 1 indicator of a good relationship. You'll never get more comfortable with him unless you start talking.
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