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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now and we recently got into an argument. Later on that night I called him but he didn't answer his phone. I decided to let him cool off for a couple of days but I still heard nothing from him. I decided to call again and again he did not answer. He hasn't tried to contact me in any way. I have no clue as to what I should do next it's been three weeks now. Is it over? Reply to this Question
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reader, drgirl +, writes (16 March 2009):
If you have never cheated on him then let him do whatever he wants at least your conscious is clear and you know you tried your best. He will realize what he lost for his insecurities. And dont call him anymore, you shouldnt look for him after he's acussing you of cheating on him ! You should be the one who's mad not him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): I think you have some pretty clear information:
1. You two are over. He ended it.
2. He doesn't trust you.
When a man decides you're sleeping around, for whatever reason, he will always think that until the opportunity for you to do so arrives, and you refuse it, and he somehow knows about it. And probably, multiple times is needed. Trust me though, a guy who thinks your cheating, is usually so locked into that paranoia, it takes a HUGE amount of time and experiences to help that perception turn around and at your age, it's not that worth it because you can be with someone secure and trusting.
Yes, he asks people who you've slept with, this is par for the paranoia course. and yes, it shows he cares, but so what. I know a lot of men and people who care for me in their own way, but that doesn't mean they are healthy to hang around.
If you are completely loyal and stay away from other men, and he's throwing you to the curb for his insecurities, get on with life without the guy and let your heart ache for just a little until you see you're better off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I have a small number of male friends and when he meets them he usually asks them did they have sexual intercourse with me, after questioning them he believes them and then he goes to one of my best friends and asks them who have I been talking to lately. He really doesn't want me to have any contact with any male unless its a family member.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): How can you prove that you did not have sexual intercourse with someone else unless he was there to witness it? What happened to make him think this is true? Did you go out with someone else without his knowledge? Rumors? What?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): He doesn't believe you, sounds like he has some insecurities. I'm sure you're hurt but just let it go.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe argument was started because he accused me of having sexual intercourse with someone else. I have never cheated on him but he continues to accuse me of cheating every second he gets, and when I prove to him that I have been faithful he doesn't even bother to apologize.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): If he hasn't picked up your calls or called you in three weeks, I think he is saying to you that it is over.
This is a cowards way, and frankly I would not want him back if I were you....after two years he needs to communicate with you and stop acting so childishly!
Was there cheating involved or something else? What was the argument about?
If you really want to know, go over to his house or somewhere where you know you can see him in person. Where a dress, have long earrings on and look feminine. Tell him if he is not careful he is going to loose you forever, and then leave.
I think he will think about his actions and contact you at the very least....but act confident and don't put up with that crap....don't confront him, just say what I just told you to say and do and leave it at that.
If he tells you he wants an apology for whatever, then talk to him and listen to what he has to say to you.....really listen without defending yourself first and then apologize for hurting him.....and then state your case and see what he has to say.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2009): What was the argument about, it couldn't have been that serious. You don't go cold on a 2 year relationship. You've called and tried to reach out, now leave him alone. If he comes around, take it from there, if not, then it's his loss. You don't want to be with a guy who can't communicate, that's childish.
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