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writes:I cheated on my girlfriend while on holiday last year. We'd been together 7 weeks, so i just put it behide me as a drunken mistake. At christmas, we moved in together and she asked me to be totally honest about everything and said it didnt matter as we were starting a new life. So i told her about my one night stand. She told me it was ok, i knew she was angry though, but she was acting as if she was fine. I've really fallen in love with her and cant believe i made a stupid mistake in telling her. I want to win back her trust, and i was thinking of asking her to marry me,but im not sure. Can any women help me? What would u do if i ask you after all this?
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reader, Dr Saturn  +, writes (15 March 2009):
Sounds like she didnt really prepare herself for the possibilty that you had cheated! I don't think a marriage proposal is a solution to a trust issue. Should be for pure reasons, whatever they are, not to try and patch over the ugly stuff! I think that a good sign is she hasn't left you. Sure it's upset her as it would most people but atleast its out in the open now. When she's had time to think about it she's probably also quite shocked and in some small way impressed with your honesty. It does show that you care cos it would've been alot easier to say you were clean! You don't say what she's actually saying or doing to make you think she is stil angry though, is it possible you are being a bit paranoid? If not, i'd imagine her main concern is that from the incident to your confession, she didn't sense anything wrong and so is worried that either she can't read you very well or you are very good at hiding things when you want to! Either way, hopefully its just a matter of time for things to settle down, not with big gestures but just the small everyday stuff. If things don't seem to improve after a while though i.e. she keeps bringin it up, it may be something you just can't mend however much you both want to.
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