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writes:my boyfriend and I haven't had sex in 2 and a half years, we've been together for 3. he had warts on his penis and i didn't want to have sex until he was rid of them, that was 2 years ago. in total, we have had sex 3 times. he tells me he desires me but shows me otherwise. there is no petting and we don't kiss passionately anymore. i've never experienced this before. a few people suggested he could be gay. i am starting to believe this could be true. would you please give me your opinion and hopefully shed some light on this matter.sincerely,frustrated and confused Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (25 May 2008):
 Nothing in what you have said is an indication that he is gay.
When a man goes without sex for a long while and doesn't masturbate either (which is quite likely with genital warts), the urge begins to diminish and the whole sexual contact thing becomes less important.
Normally, unless there are other problems, the urge can be re-awakened - and it's possible that once he gets it going again you will find he is twice as enthusiastic about it as he has ever been.
I suggest you explore that first. See if you can re-awaken his desire.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (25 May 2008):
 anything is possible but i doubt hes gay. genital warts can go away but sometimes they can reappear as it can be repetitive. you need to sit down and talk to your parnter tell him you feel like your distant from him and what has caused this problem. he is the only one knows whats going on we can sit and guess but at the end of the day thats all were doing is guesing. so go ask him communicate thats the thing in life people dont do enough and causes problems.. thats my view anyway hope it helps aphex
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): omg have you been checked out ?he may have something else and does not want to tell you about it...or he mayb hes scared becus what happen to him with the warts has ruined his desire for sex... talk to him you have needs to... you need talk to him make him feel good your incredibly brave for sticking with him thru this not many women wud... he shud give u credit for that, you obviously luv him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Do you love this man?
You've been with him a long time and you haven’t had much of a sexual relationship. Are you not frustrated?
Maybe he is just used to being in a relationship with out sex now, or perhaps he has lost his libido due to lack of diet.
Will you ever be content with a relationship that has very little affection and passion?
If not then try talking to him about rekindling your desire for one another. Passionatley kiss him out of the blue and see how he responds.
Don’t accuse him of being gay as this could hurt him badly and knock his self-esteem.
But if he shows no interest in starting to have a sexual relationship or becoming passionate with you then maybe you should move on and find someone who desire you.
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