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writes:Hello,First i'd like to start off by explaining background. I've liked this one girl (lets call her Annie) for about a year now, and just recently i've been really really into her. A couple days ago i worked up the courage to ask her to a friendly lunch (we've been friends for a really long time) and i did it via text. Her response was "sure. sounds good" and i'm really not sure how to interpret that.I think the positive is that, she did indeed say yes, and didn't just make up an excuse. On the other hand i think the negatives are maybe shes just being nice since we are friends. I really have no idea, and i'm really confused.I guess my question is, does this really mean she wants to hang with me? or is it just a safe answer that means she doesn't want to damage a realtionship?
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (25 May 2008):
 It doesn't "mean" anything more than that she wants to have lunch with you.
It's one of the things that friends do - have lunch. And I've done just that with six different female friends in the last six months.
As kenny said, try for a meal one evening if the lunch goes well. It doesn't necessarily have to be a "romantic" meal, but going out in the evening is (bizarrely??) very different from a lunch meeting.
I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
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reader, kenny +, writes (25 May 2008):
 I guess it could either be she fancies you which is why she accepted your lunch date offer, or as you have been friends for ages she thought why not. I think the only way you are going to find out is by going out a few times with her and finding out for yourself. After the lunch date why don't you suggest something like a romantic dinner for two one evening and see how that goes.
Hope it goes well
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (25 May 2008):
 Best thing to do is to arrange the lunch and see if there is any spark between you. It may be friendly polite or she may want more.....Remember though, make sure you arrange where to go,(have back up plan if this falls through) know the time, place and be in control of the timings and place where you are going. You must show you know what you are doing. If you just turn up with no idea where to go or take her, it will be a turn off! Hannah xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): ok. Well let's put it this way:
You're friends,
You asked her out on a friendly lunch and she said yes.
From this no one can tell if she likes you as more than a friend or not. To her you are just going out as friends for lunch. She may or may not like you back, but her saying yes doesn't imply either, sorry.
At least you know that she likes you as a friend and is comfortable hanging around with you. This is very important to every relationship starting out.
Just go and have a good time having lunch with her. Don't treat it like a date as it may shock her. Just have fun. Show her how fun you can be. If it all goes well then ask her if she'dlike to do it again sometime soon. If she says yes then you'll at least know that she enjoyed herself.
You can take it from there.
Let me know how you get on.
Good Luck. X
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