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writes:this is a bit of a random one ,normally in relationships, i get easily wound up if the guy does something wrong, like if im meant to pick him up when hes drunk and isnt there, i would go mad, and other stupid things that drunken guys do ,but with my current partner , it doesnt bother me , all i can think is because hes younger than me (iv always dated guys at least 5yrs older than me )im making allowances as iv done it myself when i was his age..........i know he doesnt think he can walk all over me cause of the way i dont get angry- but the thing i really want to know is, why whatever happens, we dont argue? i just cant get upset or angry with him , i always let it go over my head ,and hes also said to me , how come i never get angry with him and why we dont argue , obviously its peaceful not arguing , but is it a good thing to not argue ?will things get old or tired ? i dont really know what im trying to say to be honest.......we do have a happy relationship and love each other loads ,.............but is it healthy to not argue ? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits just really weird as i normally do argue, alot with partners, but now its just, no matter what , theres always a way of sorting anything out within seconds.
but there hasnt been anything to argue over lately though so that could be a reason ......
xxxxxxxxx thanks for the advice and reassurance xx
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 To be honest, my kids dads sister used to think we were a tad weird because we didn't argue. Her and her hubby did. And they are still together, yet we split 7 yrs ago. Hope that doesn't put you off! lol Seriously though, thats not why we split, so dont worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit is a whole lot better than being at each others throats........
it was just a bit worrying as he even asked me how come we dont argue...
but i think it may of just been a passing question...
but still, its always good to have that reassurance lol x
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (20 October 2008):
I dont think theres anything wrong with not arguing. Me and the kids dad didn't argue the whole 9 yrs we were together. Nothing i remember anyway. But my mum always said it took 2 of us to do anything, because we were joined at the hip lol I think it depends how well we gel with people. Better than being at each others throats isn't it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni forgot to say, its not things i dont agree with , its things i did when i was his age, when i was drunk, and just a pain in the butt ha ha
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe doesnt do things that cause a problem for me,
it was just when we first started going out, i would work on a friday night and if i wanted to see him after work, it was sooooooooo hard to see him and everything go smoothly, as at first he didnt have a phone i could ring him on so it was all through his mates phone, and when he was drunk he would say he would meet me but end up at home in bed and id be wondering if he was meeting me or not as i wasnt getting an answer on his mates phone ,or after a night out when i was meant to pick him up outside a club in town, and rather than stay where i told him to (i know i sound like his mum there lol ) he went wandering and it took me ages to find him , again he was at home lol
but we kinda worked that one out now, --we dont see each other full stop on a friday now - saves the hassel ,
but what i dont get is, that ,no matter how annoying it was trying to sort somthing out, once i fainlly caught up with him, its as if none of that had happened, i was just really happy to see him .............
is it just that there really isnt a problem there in the end?
i dunno, im confused, as i said id normally go off the handle with a guy for that kinda stuff, but with him , its as if it never happened?
i dont bottle it up as such, i mean we have talked about it and iv thrown a few jokes at him about how much of a pain in the butt he was on those nights, but .....................thats it ...........
again, i really dont know what im trying to say ,,,,,,,im very confused now ha ha xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): I think it depends on the situation. If there are no problems whatsoever between you two, then maybe. In your case though, he's obviously doing certain things that you don't agree with but that you don't speak up on either. That could be unhealthy to the point of you bottling all these thoughts inside until they explode. Believe me, I use to be the same way with my boyfriend. We didn't argue for the first two years we were together but there were things done that I didn't agree with...I just didn't think it was a big enough deal to pick a bone with him over. Then when something major came up, everything that I ever had a problem with exploded out of me and he didn't know where all of it was coming from. Later on I realized how unfair that was to him because I held back on communication. I can't stress enough how important communication is in a relationship! And that's my point...TALK TO HIM. Don't think a problem is ever too small to talk about with your partner. Hope I helped!
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