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writes:ok well my brother and my boyfriend usually get along but lately there's been some serious tension and it's not just like they fight with words they're kind of agressive too...... what should i do? how should i talk to them to make this non sense stop? this is rediculous they fight over the most stupid things.... help? Reply to this Question
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reader, butterfly_911  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 i will tell u something cause this happened with me before the only thing u can do is to talk to your brother in somewhere alone and tell him that u love your boyfriend and u r the one who choose him so tell him to respect that and respect u and tell him that all your fights now with your boyfriend is because of him and then tell your boyfriend i want you to stop fighting with my brother cause like this we will live unhappy...a note for u see the one who is the most making the problem and talk with him about how ur life is unhappy because of that..i hope this can help u it worked for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): I'm with rcn, but will add a point, here. Do you have an idea what the arguments are about? Is there any one thing or several? Do they involve you? Try to get the problem resolved. Talk to both seperately. Then do some analysis. Is brother trying to be over-protective and bf resents it? Just an example. But you have to take the initiative.
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Let them know their aggressions make you feel as if your stuck in the middle. You don't appreciate seeing people you care about fight, which you do both of them, and their not considering you feelings in having to watch it, and should have more respect for each other than to carry on like children over little things.
If you need to have everyone get together and come up with a plan. If they have trouble controlling their anger, make a group decision that if anger begins, whichever one decides walks away and the other person may not follow. Their a bit big for time out, but it almost seems as behaviors which would call for one.
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