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41-50,
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writes:Hello,I am having a few issues with the man I am in love. He constantly reproaches me that I ask questions that he does not like. For example today, his moral was low and in an attempt to help him feel better, I tried to kiss him on his neck but I felt a resistance from his side. I could clearly feel that he pulled his neck. But when I told him that I felt he resisted and asked him whether he did not want me to kiss him, he got irritated with me for asking such a question. Whatever I say or think, he denies it. He says that I keep on giving meaning to things but I don't feel this the case as I know he pulled his neck. He always make me feel that I am the one at fault and I keep on doing what he does not like. When he don't get what he wants or things don't turn out as he wants them to be, he will withdraw himself in a corner, barely pay attention to me, he won't even touch me. In the meantime, I have needs and want to feel loved but he's too busy feeling upset and does not give my needs the slightest importance. I really don't know if I want this kind of relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (23 November 2012):
 Perhaps you do try to analyze things too much. Try just enjoying to be with him without always trying to find meaning in things he does (or doesn't do). Your probably annoying him.
I also think he is moody and perhaps this isn't what you want in a relationship. His moodyness is causing you to assume all things point to a problem with your relationship or with you but I suspect it's all with him or just the way he feels.
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