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*tblackcat
writes:My Boss has asked if he can join me on a night out!He asked what I was upto at the weekend, I told him I was going to watch a local band play at my local and he said "i'd like to join you sometime for a drink", he then said "sorry there's me inviting myself - you can say no". I said "no that its fine and that I'm a bit crazy on a night out", he said "I like a quiet drink but can handle crazy and would like to join you for a couple of zambucas"!Later the same day I called him ref work he said he'd been thinking whist he was on his journey that he would love to go out for a drink with me and that it would be ideal when he moves closer to me.I have met him at interview stage 18months ago, he was my assessor I worked alongside him on the same level for a couple of weeks before he was promoted and relocated. He has now been promoted and he is my line manager. We get on very well and he confides in work related matters and has appointed me as his second in command.Should I go out for a drink with him? How can I tell if it is work related or something more? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): I think it's a very bad idea to mix work with social life. That is my advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): He told you he`s not married,he`s sigle. If you dont mix buisness with pleasure 2nd in command becomes toilet cleaner. Woman who wears revealing clothes,flirts etc becomes 2nd in command. He definately isnt married because he told her he is single.There will be lots of 2nd in commands. I think I`m in the wrong job me. I want to be a line manager.
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reader, ttblackcat +, writes (23 January 2011):
ttblackcat is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for you feedback. NO he is not married he has told me he is single.I've never agreed on mixing business with pleasure and I know it could get difficult.
I really liked him from the first time I met him and I think I might just take him up on that drink ;)
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reader, CJH +, writes (23 January 2011):
 He wants to get to know you socially so its really not work related is it?
Theres a little rule you need to keep in mind "dont poke the payroll" - maybe sounds a little strong to you right now but the fact is, if you end up getting together outside of work, it will almost certainly affect your relationship at work.
Having said that, its your choice what to do here. Is the guy married by the way? If he is, you know full well you should steer clear dont you?
If you want to go out and hook up with him fine but just remember that your job can and will be affected if things get serious.
Good luck.
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reader, The_truth_hurts_OK  +, writes (23 January 2011):
It's obviously not work related. He likes you, and if you don't like him, you had better stop this now or it could end up very bad.
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