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writes:I met up with an ex this weekend that I hadn't seen for six years. It was always going to be a bit awkward at first and I expected that.What I didn't expect was this weird feeling in my head. My immediate feeling was that I wasn't attracted to him anymore but.... my body reacted to him, I just couldn't get my mind to do the same thing.I don't know if it's just my mind protecting me from getting hurt again or what it is that's holding me back. I guess what I'm asking is if any of you have ever been in a position where your body is screaming "Oh yes" but your mind is saying "Oh no". Any advice?Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (23 June 2008):
 follow you head as you body wants pleasure but you head knows you will regret it after
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (23 June 2008):
 OH GOD HUNNY YES YES YES!!!!!
Women are sexual creatures ya no and our bodys tell us ooooh come here, But our heads are saying yea come here but dont try and get in my heart as its well closed off triple locked a few bolts and a chain just for good measure..Ive been very badly hurt in the past that I have post traumatic stress the thing that guys get when they have been to war!!!!It doesnt stop my body wanting to be pleasured Ive just been through a really bad time with it..It rears its ugly head when you least expect it..And its not for not wanting to love and be loved its total fear that Im not going to get myself in that possition ever again..SAD! But my body does it without me thinking so yes hunny I understand, But dont be like me give love a chance if you just want a little fun then have a little fun but make that clear, Go with you gut instincts they are never wrong if only Id done that I would be like this now...YOU TAKE CARE SWEETHEART WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Hey there, I believe that if your body was saying 'Oh yes' then you were probably horny, and simply wanting sex. But, the fact your mind was saying 'Oh no' shows you didn't actually want sex with him. If he's hurt you in he past - that would explain why your mind was telling you no. That was your instincts and you should always listen to them. Don't have sex with this guy - Only do what feels right with BOTH your mind and body.
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