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writes:Thank you for reading...Well I've been with my boyfriend for four months now and things were going amazingly well. We're happy together and truly love each other more than anything... But there's one major problem...Recently my boyfriend's parents started hating me for no reason whatsoever. They've been trying to split us up through any means necessary. They turned my best friend against me. They called my parents to say my boyfriend wasn't allowed to see me. They told him not to talk to me. (He's not following any of their advice)... And now they're calling me a downright liar and are making him phone my parents to tell them.We want to stay together but I can't keep getting upset because of them... My question is should I stick it out and fight? Not let them win? It may be worth it... Or should I just give up the fight now?...Thank you!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): At this point I think you should let it go because you have your whole life ahead of you, there will be others. As long as his parents are providing for him they have every right to guide him towards the direction they feel is best. You all are still young, so what they feel is right of course you'll are going to see it in a different light. Now is the time for you to be focused on graduating high school, and enjoying your youthful years instead of worring about being with a boy. I know you feel you are so enlove, but it will past. Trust me we have all been their before, thats why I am able to pass over the knowledge that I've gained from my youth years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to say thank you to all who answered. I did stick it out and fight and they've now left us alone. I'm so glad I did, even though it was hard. Thank you so much to all of those who replied! ^_^ It's really appreciated.xx
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (22 January 2009):
 It's easy to say to fight but you are both young. And it's easy to tell you to fight for him when they haven't been through it. Could you deal with this until he has the money and means to move out on his own? And is he willing to cut off his parents when he does move out? Because chances are they won't ever accept you, unless you go out of your way to fix it, and I'm not sure what their problem with you is or if you even can fix it. It's really hard to deal with parents who hate you. I know, I've dated a guy whose parents disliked me. He would stand up for me but it didn't help much. I didn't want to go to their house. One time I actually overheard his dad insulting me while I was in the other room! It hurts and it's confusing because they didn't have a reason to dislike me. They heard we fight sometimes and assumed it's all me. Luckily I was older so if he wanted to leave and be together he could have, and did. We didn't last.
It's not a healthy relationship to be in if he is close to his parents. And since he is underage he needs to follow their orders to some degree. Him getting kicked out would not solve anything. His family will always be there. If you ever married this guy they will be there. Why would you want to be with someone whose family hates you? As I've always been told, when you marry someone, you marry their family too. Of course marriage is far off but without these plans in mind then what are you fighting for now and where will it get you? There is little to nothing you can do without your own car in your name, his parents can call the police if the car is in their name and he is driving it. So trust me, it can get really ugly. And personally I don't feel 4 months is worth it. Parents can be unfair and mean sometimes but the truth is he is in their control for a few more years still. I won't tell you to not fight for him, I'm just saying it is a difficult battle, especially in your age and situation. And it is much easier said than done. Feel free to email me if you want.
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reader, ShanL +, writes (22 January 2009):
 well that's good he's sticking up for you and now you know what you need to do.....because like my dad always told me sometimes you have to fight to get the things you want
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's sticking up for me as best as he can... Almost to the point where he got kicked out. His parents now hate him for sticking up for me and that's what's making it worse, I think... Thank you for your prompt reply. I want to fight for him but it's getting so hard. =/
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reader, ShanL +, writes (22 January 2009):
If you two are in love fight for your man and his parents will have no choice... but the real question is, is he fighting for you? Meaning while he's with his parents and they're saying all these things about you is he talking up for you or not saying anything and if that's the case I would dump him like a bad habit because you're the only one fighting for you two to be together. So really look at your bf on this one and ask do he take up for you when his parents start to talk.
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