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writes: My bf of 8 years has a child with another woman. The child is 5 yrs old. She is in between our two children 6 and 4. I have asked him and the baby's mother to allow the child to come over to our home. I have yet to see this child since she was 1 yrs old. The ex is around my bf family all of the time. He says he has nothing to do with her but it's hard to believe since she is always around after all of this time. I have spoken about this and he does not seem to take any action. I believe that there is more to it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): You are going have to understand that your BF did have a baby with someone else. They will always have that bind because they have a child between the two of them.I'm thinking the reason for her being around his family is due to the fact that his parnets are the child's Grandparents, and I'm certain she must take her there for routine visits. I don't think this is going to stop in the near future either. I'm not really understanding why you haven't been able to participate in his other child's life. Your BF is the one who should take charge and have visitation arrangements made so you, and your other children can participate. I agree with you that this is unfair. I would definately talk to him about all of this and don't let him brush it off. Hopefully he will take charge and come up with a plan for visitation arrangements.Good Luck and hang in there!
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