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writes: Hey has anyone got any advice on how to completly rebuild your self-esteem from nothing!!I used to be such a happy person now I just seem to cry all the time for no apparent reason other than I just feel so sad all the time. I used to be the one who was always out at the weekends and my friends and I where either out or talking on the phone now I just seem to sit in the house all the time by myself and no-one seems to call anymore. I am single and most of my 'friends' seem to be getting married having babies and basically dont have any time for me unless their partners are going out and then they call me as if I am just on standby for them.I have stopped dating recently I just cant be bothered as the one guy I do like lives so far away and has absolutely no interest in me whatsover so I kinda think if I cant have him I dont want anyone.When I am at work I put a brave face on it but at the weekends I find it hard to pull myself out of bed and often when I come home on friday afternoons I dont get out of bed unless I need to use the bathroom I dont even get showered I just lay in bed. I have even thought of committing suicide!!I know I should probably see someone but the only thing I have at the momment is my career if it came out how unstable I am feeling I mean would you want me teaching your children?!I just dont know how to pull myself out of this please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): Depression is an illness - it's something that's wrong inside your body. Some of the symptoms are manifested in how you feel, but there are others - it's not just about emotions.
You definitely sound like you're dealing with depression. Please, PLEASE see a doctor.
You don't need to go to a psychiatrist; there's no reason anyone would ever know what's going on with you. A visit to your family doctor would be a great start. For something that's relatively straightforward, many family docs will treat you themselves, without even giving a referral.
Depression and related medical conditions, like migraines, epilepsy, etc., are common in my family. They're all tied in to a problem in the way your body handles serotonin; similar drugs treat all the same illnesses. My sister has no more reason to feel ashamed or secretive about taking an anti-depressant to control her mood than my aunt has for taking the EXACT SAME DRUG (albeit in different dosage) to prevent her from getting seizures, or than I do for taking a similar drug to limit the number of migraines I get. It'a an illness, the same as anything else. Just like any other illness, if you let it get bad enough, it can kill you. You're showing a lot of the signs. Please see a doctor.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (12 January 2006):
Hi there,
Like someone else said, it seems to me you are suffering from depression! And even if you weren't to be clinically diagnosed, you are still going through a hell of a lot!
It seems to me you feel lonely, unloved, and left behind, as all of your friends have moved onto a different life then you. You feel excluded and only used for when they have 'nothing better else to do'. So no wonder you feel depressed! Thats not a great way to live. You lack support from people who should be there for you.
My first suggestion to you, is to visit ALL of these web sites, if you wan't to feel better, then do this, please. These web sites talk about depression and will give you advice on what to do.
http://www.depression.com/
www.depressionet.com.au/
www.beyondblue.org.au/
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/depression.cfm
Hopefuly after reading those sites you will have the courage to go see your Doctor and get some help. Your doctor can diagnose you or refer you to a specilaist to see if you are suffering from depression. Alternativly, you can go and see a counsellor just to talk. Its importnat that you seek this help. It is by no means your fault that you may have depression, its a illness, just like cancer is. Its nothing to be ashamed of. The fact taht you came here, shows me that you DO have it in you, to reach out for help. You just need to reach out a bit more. If you don't feel as you can do it alone, then think about asking a close friend or family member to go with you. Is there anyone you think you could talk to about this? Your mum perhaps? Your dad? A brother or sister? Aunty or uncle, grandparent? Religous leader? Neighbour?
You can do this, just be brave and talk to your doctor. And if you have any more questions or just simply need some more encouragment, just come back to this site and I'm sure many of us will help you out, again, and always will! :) take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): My heart really goes out to you.
When did this start? Was there something that happened that started you feeling like this or did it gradually come on?
If you can pinpoint the time and the event, it may help you work through the issue.
Alternatively, is there anyone you can talk to about this? A friend or a family member? Sometimes talking these things out can really help.
Have you considered perhaps talking to your GP? He/She may be able to offer you some assistance and maybe refer you to someone who may be able to help you through this.
Please take care of yourself and let us know how you are doing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2006): Sounds to me like you are suffering from depression. Most of what you have described was my life seven years ago! I know exactly where you are coming from hun! ;)
This is not something you can just "pull out of". Please don't let anyone else try and tell you to "snap out of it either!"
Depression can only be dealt with by a good physician and andtideppressants. Please go and visit your family Dr. as soon as you can because deppression can get worse if left untreated.
You having deppression will not affect your career(meaning they can't fire you because of this) You might have to take a short leave of absence untill you start feeling like yourself. Your career should be the least of your worries right now hun. Your mental well being is a bigger issue,that needs your immediate attention. Please see your Dr. soon!
Take Care! xxx
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