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writes:i have been dating a man for the past 2years and 10 months. we broke up twice but are now somewhat back together. i know that we each need to have our own friends and activities, but what do you guys see as a schedule for seeing each other. he wants only two nights a week but to me as long as we have been together, this is not enough. i think that he wants to start our relationship over like it was in the beginning. to me, a relationship that has this much time in it, can never start over. this is impossible to me. we have been very intimate and are very close. to me we should have long been engaged and probably on our way to the altar by now. he is keeping us being back together from his family because now matter what he says, they control his life.he didn't want his daughter to marry the guy that she did and he did not want her to get pregnant again but she did. the point i am making is that he doesn't control his daughter's life so what makes her think that she can control her father's life. i realize that she can only control her father as much as he allows her too. her husband doesn't want my bf to have me or any one else. he wants my bf to be available to help them at a moments notice and me being in my bf's life puts a damper on this. please give me some advice. guys, i need your input into this to. my bf has all but told me that he is a wimp. gals, i needs your help too. please tell me what you would do in this situation. thanks!!
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reader, rcn +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Your boyfriend needs to stand up and take control. What is he afraid of? I doubt his daughter will go over there and bend him over her knee. It's OK to want to be helpful to his daughter and her husband, but complete focus on them is wrong. They have a family they need to take care of. Their behavior is disrespectful and he needs to sit them down and tell them enough is enough. It's time for him to be happy and take the path he chooses to take with whom he chooses to with.
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reader, drastic knowledge +, writes (4 October 2007):
 well he is a man not a little boy
you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel about all this and maybe work out the seeing eachother part
but as for him wanting to maybe start over where you want to be getting married seems to me you two are on 2 differnt pages and need to set down and talk your relationship over and get to the bottom of all this
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