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writes:A friend of a friend gave me the email address of a very interesting woman and suggested that I contact her. We haven't met before but she indicated that she'd like me contact her.Being a little nervous and not wanting to overthink it, I wrote her a brief email introducing myself, saying that I heard from my [immediate friend] that she was travelling back from [a certain country] and that I would be travelling there in 3 weeks. I asked if I could pick her brain and whether she would be interested in grabbing a bite at [a local pub at a certain date and time]. My [immediate friend] told me in no uncertain terms what an idiot I was for ruining things by bring so forward/controlling on my first contact. I feel horrible. I've been on a lot of discouraging dates and in a couple of short relationships this summer and this was the first interesting prospect to come along since the spring.Several days passed before she sent me a text message ( her email filtered messages from unknown contacts to a different folder) confirming the date, time, and location I suggested. I'm now a bundle of nerves. I feel like I creeped her out with my first message. I've never been on a blind date before. I'd rather not talk about it with my [immediate friend] anymore. I would appreciate an outside perspective. Did I start things off on a bad foot?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFYI, we had a great time. Thanks for your advice at the time; it helped. There was was no second date since she took a job several time zones away.
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reader, jlheinemann  +, writes (8 November 2015):
I think your email was fine and invitation was very nice. If she was creeped out at all she would not have responded. Just meet her and talk and be polite like you would with anyone you are first meeting at lunch or dinner. I am sure she is a little nervous too. I think it is a good sign she confirmed. Good Luck.
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reader, jlheinemann +, writes (8 November 2015):
I think your email was fine and invitation was very nice. If she was creeped out at all she would not have responded. Just meet her and talk and be polite like you would with anyone you are first meeting at lunch or dinner. I am sure she is a little nervous too. I think it is a good sign she confirmed. Good Luck.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (4 November 2015):
 Nope not at all. Not sure what your mates on about, what was he expecting a grown man to put in an email- "Hi"? Bloody noog lol
If you had ruined anything then i doubt very much than she would have even replied let alone confirming the date and time. All the best
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