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My bf wants a threesome, should I do it?

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Question - (4 October 2007) 12 Answers - (Newest, 15 October 2007)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

my bf says he wants a threesome !! is this something i should do or not ?

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A male reader, rhino United Kingdom +, writes (15 October 2007):

rhino agony auntjust wondering how things got on,is he still pressing you for a 3some,i think some of his thoughts are silly,so what if you had more parnters then,he is with you now,if he can not get his head around it,dump him,get some one to love and respect you,

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A female reader, Basschick Australia +, writes (5 October 2007):

Basschick agony auntI agree with Uncle Phil. Don't do it! He's playing some kind of game with you because you've had a few more sexual partners in the past, and he already feels threatened and jealous by that. So to get even with you, he wants to invite another girl into your bed just to shove it in your face! Don't you dare do it. It'll be the death of your relationship. I have a rule about threesomes. If any b/f has ever suggested a threesome my rule is this: Two guys and me FIRST, then if he can handle that, I'll agree to the two girls and him. Trust me it never happens. The subject is usually dropped immediately, never to be brought up again. Now you know how your b/f feels about YOU inviting another guy into your bedroom, how could he possibly think you'd be game for it the other way around?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007):

Well now - there's a thing!!

He thinks it's ok for him to play with two women, but it's not ok for you to play with two men! A severe case of double standards eh??

Well you know what to do now - tell him NO WAY!!

Glad you did the follow up - made my day!

Phil

(:o)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007):

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i did ask him why he replied i love you and think it would be fun ... then he said besides you have been with more people than me !!!!!! he uses this alot to make me feel guilty.. i said ok if i do that we have to do another one with another guy !! he said no i said u dont have to touch him !! he was like no no no no no i said why not he said he would be damned if he could watch another man " violate " our relationship. so apparently he feels it is cheating right ...

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007):

if you had a three some it would completley destroy all trust in your relationship whould you feel happy with watching him having sex with another girl? my opinion on threesomes is it is getting permission to cheat, maybe there are other ways to liven things up

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007):

Only you can answer the question, you're old enough to do so!

If you're both bisexual and you don't mind some lesbian action, and your boyfriend doesn't mind some homosexual action, and you do it with another woman one time and with another man the next time, and if you don't mind sharing each other with someone else, male and female then why not?

Just make sure that the 3rd person is agreeable to you both.

Phil

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A male reader, rhino United Kingdom +, writes (5 October 2007):

rhino agony auntwhen a bf wants a 3some,it will mean only 1 thing,him and 2 gals,it you say to him you and 2 guys,99 times out of 100 he will say no way,ask him why,he would be scared,in case the other guy,is bigger,better,you might enjoy the other guy more,so i would say to him,is why?

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A female reader, XxAngelDust89xX United States +, writes (5 October 2007):

XxAngelDust89xX agony auntIt's not a question of SHOULD its a question if do you WANT to or do you feel COMFORTABLE with it?

If it doesnt appeal, then dont do it

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (5 October 2007):

Collaroy agony auntNo. You should never do something sexual that you are not excited about.

If this is not a turn on for you , then it will be a huge turnoff when the opportunity presents itself.

A lot of couples love 3 way sex, but it is something all parties must be into.

Remember it is not about whether you should do it or not ,its about whether you really want to do it or not.

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A male reader, casperuk United Kingdom +, writes (4 October 2007):

no iff u are evan thinkin 2s about it it will be trouble for u and if he dont like it and starts being funny about it get rid of him

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (4 October 2007):

kenny agony auntIf you are not entirely comfortable with this then don't do it. If you go ahead and do it, the likellhood is it will cause serious problems in your relationship. If you think you would not be comfortable watching your partner have sex with another girl then please don't go ahead with this.

All the best x

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A female reader, Basschick Australia +, writes (4 October 2007):

Basschick agony auntNo, no, a thousand times no. Not unless he's just a friend with benefits. Then go ahead. Otherwise, he'll enjoy it w-a-a-y more than you will -- of course, I'm just guessing he wants to be with two girls -- I mean rarely does a guy ever want another guy to share his woman while he watches!

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