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writes:Ok people so this is a common problrm but its somethin i cant seem to get my head around.my bf wants me to have a threesum. well he wants to watch me havin sex with another guy. now the thought of the fantasy does turn me on its just the thought of the reality.im scared that somethin may go horribly wrong. i trust my bf very much and know that he would never perposefully put me in any harm.but what if he cant control the situation.the reason im so worried is because i was raped when i was younger n im worried it will all become a bit forced (not on my bf part, but on the other guys part).i have explained this to my bf and he has said that he would never let any harm come to me. i do want to do it because i love him and i know its somethin he really wants to try. im not worried about him leaving me if i dont do it. i just wish i could get all the negative thoughts about it out of my head.any suggestions are greatly appreciatedxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): well now, first a fantasy is something in the mind and if you turn it into a reality then the fantasy is gone.second, unless you are both 100% safe and 100% honest with yourself and each other then this is a big no no, it will end up with tears at best.finaly, if you are 100% with doing this and you want to give it a go, DONT do it with anyone you know of live near, guys cant keep there gobs shut about this kinda thing (its in there jeans) they must tell people about what they got up to in bed so it aint gonna be your little secret it you do it with a local, and you must not plan things like this, it has to be talked about before hand and then just try to wait for the right opportunity.just one more point, if one of you is unsure about having a 3sum then it aint gonna happen, i know, i have been asking my wife to have a 3sum with 1 or even 2 other guys for over a year, she said yes once but changed her mind and thats that. i am 100% behind what she wants and would love her to try this but if its a no then no it is. hope i helped. bye.
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reader, youngcouple22 +, writes (28 June 2007):
hi, me and my girlfriend are starting to experiment with sleeping with other people, but it hasnt been a great success.
we arrange for me to sleep with my ex girlfriend but i didnt happen.
then last week my girlfriend was going to have sex with her ex boyfriend and film it so i could watch. but her ex didnt want to go through with it.
the reason my girlfriend was willing to do it with her ex boyfriend was because she felt comfortable. thats the main issue.
we looked in to meeting a guy on the internet.
the best thing is not to rush into it. find someone local and talk to them on the internet for a while.
even meet up with them for a drink and talk about what you would want to do. most of the time the arousal is in the thought of you having sex with someone else.
just think once youve done it the fantasy is gone.
good luck.
im here if you need any more advice or just a chat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2006): if he loves you..why would he put u thru sumthing that scares you? and ull kno wen ur ready..wen u realise dat you aint scared no more. freind x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2006): Iwell, it's totally your decision. If you do not feel comfortable with the idea, you shouldn't do it. You need to find out why your boyf really wants to watch you having sex with another guy - he COULD (and this is only a possibility) be trying to see if you were willing to have sex with another guy, when really, if you like your boyf as much as you say you do, you would only ever sleep with HIM.
Here's a question that might help you make up your mind - how would you feel if he asked for a threesome with another girl? You wouldn't want your boyf sleeping with another girl right?
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