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writes: My bf claims i don't 'do much' during sex except lie there and make approving noises. Neither of us particularly enjoy having me on top. What exactly can i do when he's on top. Am i actually meant to be doing some of the 'thrusting' and if so do i do it with him or against him (if that makes any sense) Reply to this Question
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reader, Toria +, writes (27 September 2006):
 You need to start moving with him against his thrusts and caress him and as he is on top you have most his body to touch and caress make the most of it, try showing him how much you want him by grabbing him and pulling him closer and more into you, talk to him and tell him how much you want him and love what he is doing.
If you both don't really enjoy you on top try other ones there are loads you can try and even if you don't enjoy them you'll both have fun trying them.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): I disagree with some of SoulSista's comments about not pleasing him back. I always thought sex was a form of communication - to pleasure each other, and 'talking' through emotion and physical contact.
If Ms. Anon doesn't do anything but lie there and NOT please him, then that's basically like saying he does all the work/talking, while she doesn't do anything to respond or become more active in the relationship.
"Someone so ungrateful" - hello? Come again? I'm actually a bit irritated with this. What so you think just having a woman in a man's life is enough? Isn't that more than just a bit presumptuous? Like with everything in this world and in life, you have to earn respect and admiration. Just because she is his gf doesn't automatically make her a respectful person, or someone who automatically receives adoration and admiration.
Example: our prime minister lowered our GST from 7% to 6%, but does a shitty job with everything else - you think we'll applaud to him? if my mom was a horrible person, you think she would deserve love and care from his family? fortunately, she is a good mother, and I respect her enough and admire her a great deal. just the same with say one of my ex's - works her ass off for her family, still makes time to treat me right, and is a nice person, intellectual, etc, etc. She deserved my adoration, admiration, and respect, as well as all the things I've done for her and even more. However, if she doesn't do much in the relationship, does that mean if I get bored or think she isn't good at all in bed - that makes me an ungrateful bastard?
Hell no.
ANYWAY... To answer Ms. Anon's question... As with SoulSista and Jmum's comments, you can be a bit more 'horny' in your activities. Move in-sync with him penetrating you. When his head is over your shoulders, you can moan and bite, gnaw on his neck and shoulders. Place your hand on the of his head and your other hand on his ass, tell him to bang you harder, talk dirty to him, tell him how he can pleasure you. You might want to check this site out - my fave sex advice site: http://www.allsexadvice.com/forum/index.php
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (26 September 2006):
 Firstly, if my boyfriend said I 'don't do much', then he'd get a slap! But if you're okay with that then here goes: If you're happy with the way things are, keep them that way. You don't have to do anything to please him.
However, if you want to be more involved for you as well as him, then thrust with him, wrap your legs around his bum to tighten your vagina, scratch his back (not too hard, see how he likes it first!), reach underneath and play with his balls, tickle his legs, kiss more passionately, make louder noises, talk dirty to him, touch yourself (boobs or clit) etc.
That's all I can think of for now but try these out, there should be enough to keep you going for a while! If he still complains, go and find someone who isn't so ungrateful.
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