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writes:one of my best friends (a guy) really doesnt like my bf My bf is the sweetest guy ever but my friend wont have any of it. Thing is they have only met once and now my friend wont even contemplate meeting him againFor a while me and my friend hung out together all the time (never went out)He has had gf's while we were friends which i was always cool with This is the first searious bf i have had \I thought he would be happy for me and maybe they could be mates too but he slags off my bf so much i have been in tearsAny advice anyone x x x x
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reader, Toria +, writes (27 September 2006):
 He may see more in you than just a friend, care for you so is just worried of you getting hurt or he could even just be jealous of losing your attention and not wanting to share you as he is so use to you spending so much time together and you not having a serious boyfriend therefore it's abit of a shock to his system whatever way you need to talk to him and get to the bottom of this as you are the one in the middle and the one that will suffer the most from this.
Explain to him how they are both important to you and you want him to be happy for you and you want his support not is disapproval.
Good luck :o)
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reader, stina  +, writes (26 September 2006):
 Hi Anon,
There are a few things that came to my mind right away as to why your friend might not want to talk to or even be around your boyfriend:
1. Your friend really sees you more than just a friend. He may have romatic feelings toward you that he has not revealed. Do you think this could be the reason for his reaction?
2. Your friend might think of you as a sister and is just overly cautious about who you date. He might not think this guy - or anyone - will be good enough for you.
3. He really doesn't like this guy for who he is. Does he know something that you do not?
In any case, you really need to find out what your friend's deal is. Try to have a serious discussion about this because it would probably benefit the both of you. You could then try to move forward with the friendship instead of being caught in the middle. I can imagine your friend saying that you're picking your boyfriend over him. Before it gets to that point, this needs to be resolved. If it isn't, it's going to drive the both of you crazy - you, because you are thoroughly confused, and him, because he is not communicating with you. All relationships, whether they're romantic or not, need communication.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): I have been in this situation myself with my best friend she dont really like my partner she is in a relationship herself with somebody who i will make the effort with but i wouldnt go as far to say i really like him but i put that a side as i know she is happy with him.I had to think long and hard about what to do and my partner makes me feel happy and our relationship is a genuine happy commited one.If i was made to choose i would choose my partner over my friend because if she was as a genuine friend as what she has made out to be then she would respect my judgement on who im with and make more of a effort and not make such hasty comments.
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