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writes:I've been dating this guy for a little over a year now and I'm concern that he's not over his ex-girlfriend, which by the way is his baby mother.(She lives in Florida now) When we first started dating he made a trip to go visit his son. But he stayed at her house and couldn't even call or text. A month later, she came to to New York where he lives and I found out she stayed at his house. I was pissed b/c he could tell me and 2nd he didn't pick up the phone to call. Eight months into the relationship he and his baby mother decided to have a birht party for his son. Guess what, he didn't want me to go. He stated and I quote, " How would she feel meeting me for the 1st time at there son's birhtday party". His father claified that there was nothing going on, but I don't believe it. Itold him he was more concerned about her than me. Also never met his mother,friends or was invied to a family function. Itold him this and he can't understand why I feel the way I do. I'm to the pointof leaving him. Should I?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank every one for their response. It is every help full and I have talked to him again and basicly I told him that he's not over her and need to get back with her. Because basicly I'm want to get married and would like to have more children, but he wants to have more children but doesn't want to get married yet but would love to move in with me. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! So again, thatnk you for your honest comments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): Hi, I'm sorry to hear about all of this crap that you are having to put up with. If you read my answers you would know that i HATE exs with a passion. They have been the bain of my life in the past. I would have a good long chat with him and let him know just how you feel. You are being treated like 2nd class, which is just not on! Why should you sit back and be ok about these things happening? He is supposed to be with you. He is hoping that they get back together then he can go back to having a cosy little family, er, i would have something to say about that! You need to be firm and strong and if this doesnt sort out the situation then be prepared to walk away. Cos i wouldnt put up with this rubbish not for a minute. You deserve better, so go get it girl!! Thats an order from me!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Yeah, he's definately keeping you a secret, because he's holding on to the hope that she might come back. And if she thinks he's gotten involved with someone (you) she might think twice about a reconciliation. It doesn't matter whether he's having sex with her or not, his heart has not let go and that is why he doesn't want her to know about you, because God forbid, she might figure out that he's moved on. Or has he?....Well, the way I see it -- he can't keep you a secret forever. Sooner or later, you need to start attending these functions with him if you are going to continue being in his life. I would make this suggestion before the next function comes up. Tell him you've given him ample time to make solo appearances, and now it's time for his ex to understand that he is no longer alone. You should then start accompanying him to all functions that pertain to family, including his son. If he says no, then you'll know where you stand and it may be time to step away from this relationship until he's come to terms with his feelings for his ex and is truly ready to move on. Good luck.
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