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writes:please help me!!!! i've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. we recently moved in together but he treats me like dirt. everytime we are out together he either tells me he wants me to go home or moans that we spend too much time together!!!!!!! his favourtive thing to do though is to moan about it then say ok lets go home, once we get home he says, im off out for a bit i wont be long!!! if i try to ask him why he gets annoyed and walks out!!!! he thinks this is ok to do!!!!!!!!! how do i get him to stop this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): I agree and disagree with the replies. i think this guy is wrong to walk out when u try to discuss this issue. yes you both have alone time but when ur together he's not right. maybe you should move out (at least just to let him see what he's doing to you). as for you not having much in your life, thats probibally very wrong indeed! moving in together is a very difficult prossess, this will be alright soon, try these sugestions and see what happens before you leave a good relationship behind.
hope ive helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): Completely disagree with the other posts. Why shouldn't your bf be allowed to leave the house on his own? He's making a point not to tell you where/why b/c you're making such an issue out of it. TAKE SOME SPACE FOR YOURSELF. It sounds like you don't have a lot going on in your life that is really exciting and thrilling to you, maybe apart from your bf. It would probably make you happier if you did, and I bet he'd feel less pressure.
Moving in is a big transition--lots of togetherness, suddenly. You need to find a way to maintain your separateness. Be sure to spend AT LEAST two nights a week doing things NOT together. Even if it's just he's out with friends while you do laundry (or play video games), or he's home playing video games (or doing laundry) while you go to the mall, take that time to be on your own--to have separate lives, apart from one another. It's healthy. I promise.
And stop yelling at him. Just stop it. The one exception to this is that he is not permitted to disrespect you or put you down in a group. But as long as he tells you to go home or moans about things just to you (and anyone who might overhear does so only incidentally), get over it. Fix the problem, and then if the griping doesn't go away, come back and post again, and you'll have a differnet problem to deal with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2007): How do you get him to stop what he's doing? You move out, or kick him out, that's what you do.
Clearly he is not happy with you and you're not happy with him either. Perhaps moving in together was a big mistake. Better to rectify it now.
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reader, livi +, writes (26 March 2007):
 hey there,
ok well u have to tell him! he's walking all over him and it so unfair. remind him that he is a lucky lucky feller!
also if you dont like this idea, then play him at his game, whenever you go out with him you be the first one to say lets go home, get there before him, give him a tatse of his own medicine.
good luk with it all : D
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (26 March 2007):
Tell him you have had enough of it. If he is not careing when you tell hi and he gets annoyed, you should dump him. He is a sad act and not worth it. Dont let yourself be treated like this, you deserve better and you know you do.
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