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writes:(Mod note: Poster, we combined your 2 postings as they were both of the same content and topic area)1) ok well i have a boyfrind ive been with for about six months when we first got together we were so in love. my first husband commited suicide and the guy im with was best friends with. from my husband i had a little boy. well anyway i went to him as a friend neede someone to talk to who lost the same person. we fell in love. but those days are over. i live with him as well as my son. he loves my son and my son jus loves him. but we fight over the littlest things. he picks fights and they are so stupid. pointless!! we dont trust each other. he acts like he doesnt love me he never looks at me, we never talk like we use to when we were friends. the only time he has anything to do with me is at night. i tell him all the time i feel nothing anymore and that i dont believe he loves me in any way. he gets so mad about the dumbest things. and here recently i had a ruff day my husband died on that date anyway he got mad because i cried i have my bad days and good days....but really he acts like he is jealous of a dead man. with everything thats happened he has never hit me. my husband did and so im scared but the guy im with now has a history of domestic violence and stuff people tell me to leave because it gets worse. he is jealous and yells cusses and in front of my kid. ive caught women texting him at two three o'clock in the morning i dont know what to do bad thing is i love him. what do i do? i just need some advice. should i get my kid and leave?2) my boyfriend acts like he hates me. ive been with him for almost a year he is quite abit older than me and here lately he is such a jerk. he yells, cusses, and has a temper. i have one year old boy. he doesnt care what he does in front of him either. ive caught women texting him,he has a private browser on his computer text msgs are always deleted. he doesnt show that he loves me at all. he never goes out of his way u would think we were just roomates. he stays mad and picks the littlest things to fight about......example i didnt get stuff off the couch for him to set down, or i didnt eat breakfast. the first thing he told me this morning was shut the fuck up what should i do? should i leave ?
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reader, Yarou  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 ok this is just f'ing wrong.Wo does eh think he is? you have all the right to cry at your husbands funeral and plus it's none of his business to tell you to eat breakfast or not !!I know this is hard for you and i want you to do something..Look.. as soon as you will fight again bring up the story about you two. for example.. if you yell at each other tell him something like : what is wrong with you? you fight over the littlest things just like kids ! why are you treating me this way ! where did the old guy i loved go? what are hose text msgs in the middle of the night? what is happening ! you dont love me dont you?!Ask him those questions yell at him spread your anger show him that you can't take this anymore.If he doesnt give you a good reason for each answer than its time for you to leave because this is not what i call a life. i am sorry if you were hurt i just want to make sure everything will be fine. :)Im here if u need help :)goodluck xx*personal information deleted to protect poster
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (20 February 2010):
 I think you know exactly what you should do!
It isn't easy to turn and walk away...but I think you know that is exactly what you need to do.
You said he has a history of physical violence...sooner or later he will turn that on you! Don't wait till that happens...you may not survive it.
I stood 16 years of physical, emotional and mental abuse...don't be like me and just hope for things to change! Make things Change by taking actions. Don't sit around for years thinking of yourself as a victim. Be victorious and put an end to it now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): You are not happy with this man, and there is no reason for you to stay with him. Handle it in a mature way and find your own home and move out.
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