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writes: Hi there, please help me, I dont know what to do.My boyfriend isnt fat at all, I would never see him as fat, but he is a bit too big for his age. He is nearly 17, and is an X-Large. Not long back, he had to throw some clothes away because they didnt fit him anymore.I am concerned about his health, especially scene as there is heart trouble that runs in the family. I dont want him to be the next one with heart trouble. I really care about him, and I want the best for him. No matter how big he may ever get, I love him for the person he is, and find him just as attractive and sexy but I still want him to be happy and do what he wants to in life.I know that he is not happy about his weight, and he calls himself a "fat bXXXXX" and pretends that he finds it funny, but i know he doesnt. He has always been called names for his weight and calling himself names is his way of trying to show people that he is not bothered by it.I want to tell him that i love him and still find him sexy and attractive just the same, but i am concerned for his health. and i dont want him to take it the wrong way, cos i think he will.Has anyone been in this situation b4? if so, how did u deal with it? any opinions/advise is much appreciated.PLUS... i am nearly 16, and recently i have lost weight and gone from a size 18-20 to a size 14, but i am quite small (about 5,ft 1,ins), so I look a little plump, and I have excess fat around my hips which wont budge no matter what I try! I have tried diets and excercise to shift the excess fat, but it wont go, and I am wanting to go down to a size 12, and I have seen some herbal tablets called "Apple Cider 600" which is to help you lose weight, and to help reduce your appitite. Has anyone here tried these tablets? if so, are they any good? and do you think they would help me?Thanks for any advise!x
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (23 June 2006):
 thank you for the update i'm so pleased to hear your both getting on and helping eachother look forward to how your getting on before your holiday.
i wish you both the very best of luck and if we don't hear from you before you go have a wonderful holiday
claire xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thanks for both of the answers so far. theyre both a real good help. A few days ago, I actually decided to start eating healthier foods such as salads and jacket potatoes (instead of chips) with good fillings such as baked beans etc, and my boyfriend asked me if I would like him to do it too to give me support, and I am so pleased because we are both eating healthier, and he is giving me good support. We are going away soon and we have decided to do a lot of walking while we are away so we get some exercise too! I hope this stuff will work for us both! thanks, I'll keep you updated xx
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (16 June 2006):
dear reader.
first of all you sound like a very lovin and caring person.
Also i AM in this situation my partner is quite big but his tall so he carries it well. he also has a good ole giggle about his weight but won't do a thing about it even though he himself has health issues because of it. On the down side you knwo as well as i do if a man don't want to do anything about something they simply won't so there's no falsing him without affending him.
the best you can do is do exactly what you are doing tell him how much you love him and still find him sexy, but also let him know you will be behind him 100% if and when he discides to do something about it. have you tryed doing dieting with him even if you don't really need to just go for morral support.or if you cook for him try out new healthy things and see if he likes them. you could suggest he gets a dog that way he will need to take it for walks and there's his little bit of exercise (every little helps)
i hope he see's things your way and at least trys to do something about it if only just to stop you worrying
all the best to you keep us updated xxx
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (16 June 2006):
 Lets start with your weight question...congratulations on losing the pounds!!! A size 14 is perfectly ok and that is about average clothing size for women so try not to worry about your weight too much. Herbal diet supplements rarely work on weight loss - most are expensive gimics. I worked on a research trial last year looking into them and some have potentially dangerous substances like heavy metals in them so AVOID. In the UK, there is a campaign to regulate the herbal medicine industry at the moment. Dont starve yourself away as your body is still growing, and you need lots of vitamins and minerals. You need to focus on your food groups to lose more weight - a low carbohydrate diet is the key, but as I said earlier you should be careful not to get too obsessed with it because you have already lost weight and should focus on keeping that off. Maybe you should ask your GP for a referral to a nutritionalist who can help you to sort out a food plan, and maybe you could take your BF along with you. He probably just makes jokes about himself to cover up how he feels inside. If he only has a small problem with his weight, maybe he will get better with age as some young men lose the 'puppy fat' by their 20's naturally. You might also want to suggest that he does some sport if you can figure out what he would like to do. If you arrange to go to the gym with him, then there is more likelihood of him sticking to any healthy plan!
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