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writes:I have a boyfriend and he lives far away from where we live do you think we will work out? Reply to this Question
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reader, bday121  +, writes (7 September 2007):
 How far, exactly? It would be helpful to know if he's like one hour away or a whole state away. I think I can offer some good advice on this. My first boyfriend lived 45 minutes (driving time) away from me. Neither one of us had a car or a license so we had to rely on our parents to take us to see each other. It sucked. I only got to see him on weekends and when we were together we could never do anything exciting because no one wanted to drive us anywhere. But, my boyfriend and I were very committed. We talked on the phone every night, shared deep discussions about the future, and we were never unfaitful to each other. The relationship was a bit rocky at times but it was overall very nice, and we managed to stay together for 3 years. After that, the relationship went downhill. There were many reasons, but one of them was that we were still relying on others to drive us around. I couldn't stand it anymore, and we broke up in July. Looking back, I can clearly see how horrible it was to only see my boyfriend once a week. It's pretty much awful and it's definitely not something I recommend. It is EXTREMELY difficult to maintain a happy and healthy relationship when you can't see your significant other often enough. But, if you really like this guy, go for it. Things could really work out for the two of you. Like I said, I had a great realtionship even though my boyfriend and I were far apart. Just be expecting some rough patches and bits of heartache from missing them. Things *can* work out, it'll just take some effort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): Yes I do fink u will work out cus if ur luv is genuine then it won't matter where in the world u live u will still luv each other just the same!
Hope this helps!x
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (18 April 2007):
 Miles can melt away in this age of easy communication, but there's still nothing that beats the touch of your beloved's hand or their kiss on your cheek.
If the two of you are seriously committed to making this work, it can work out, but the odds are long against it. You are not yet at the stage in your life where either one of you is free to just jump up and visit the other. In the absence of that physical closeness, people will tend to drift apart despite the best of intentions no matter how often they telephone, IM, or email one another.
If there is some way that the two of you can get together on a regular basis, then maybe it will be a little easier. And by all means, if you really care about each other now, give it a try. But don't be terribly disappointed if in the long run it doesn't work out. There's a LOT going against such a relationship, and only a very fragile reed of connection between you holding it together.
Good luck.
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