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writes: Hello I'm 18 and gay. 8 months ago i gout out of a really bad relationship. It was a kind of relationship that was a very controlling one and the guy i was with hit me at the end for leaving him. Recently i have found myself meeting a new guy who i have been in a relationship for two months. The problem is that my current boyfriend likes men of a different race as mine. Recently he has lied to me about meeting a guy and tried to blame it on me and make it seem as if i didn't trust him. He made me feel really bad. actually worse than the guy i dated before 8 months ago. He made me brake down and cry because he made me feel really bad, and acted as if he didn't care any more. But then wanted to get back with me. He said that he loved me and he really wants to make it work. But to me he seems like a totally different person. His body feels different to me, his touch is different. It feels as if I'm with a totally different person now. and my emotions and feelings are totally mixed up. Please help me or give me some advide as to how i should cope with this situation. what can i do that would be the best for me? Reply to this Question
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reader, d4u04  +, writes (8 January 2007):
 I think the controlling relationship before has really knocked your confidence and self-esteem. If this guy does feel different to you know then just ask him what he really wants, does he want to be with you even though you said youself he doesn't usually go with guys of your race, or is he just as mixed up about his feelings as you. If he doesn't give the answer you want then I suggest serperating for a while to figure out what you both want, because while you're in this relationship, your feelings will remain mixed up as you'll be feeling you have to honour this relationship and stay with him because he claims he loves you, which it does sound he does to be fair but these mixed up feelings are doing you, and your relationship, no good.
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