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writes:im seventeen. my boyfriend has been having mood swings toward me , and he takes his anger for his family out on me, not only do i feel distant from him but i feel he is not the same person i fell in love with a year ago. we haven't had sex in two months. we don't talk like we use to and if we do we have nothing to say. I don't know what to do, or what it means.And the other day i resulted with cheating. was i completly wrong? do i tell him?? what do i do? it felt so good but i just don't want to hurt him. please help me??
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reader, RawrrJoJoBabii +, writes (9 July 2008):
 That was the wrong way to go. You should've confronted him first. You absolutely must tell him that you cheated and be 100% honest with him. He deserves to know the truth especially after a year of being together.
About his mood swings if everything works out you two should spend more time together which should bring conversation. Also, you might want to tell him that he shouldn't take things out on you but if he needs someone to talk to about it then you're there for him.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (8 July 2008):
 It sounds like your boyfriend could very well have some serious physical/psychological problems that could require medical intervention. He should probably see a counselor or doctor and get an evaluation.
The local referral agency attached to your community United Way can give him the number of a community mental health agency that can help. Try to convince him that his mood swings are serious, that they are affecting your relationship, and that he should get help. If he does have a medical problem the counselor will pick up on that quickly and make the appropriate referral.
And it IS serious, if it's resulting in you cheating just for the sake of relief from the stress of the relationship. Although you didn't say so, I'm assuming that the cheating episode is not a serious threat to your relationship long term at this point.
Try to get him help. I think he needs it.
But you do need help if you're going to make it as a couple
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