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writes:Hey guys I have a problem, See,I own a horse and I've met my BF through a horse ranch. Lately we've been having issues with our relationship. When it first started I felt so lucky meeting him like I did. He's wealthy handsome and smart. See, he's also a teacher and he teaches physics to college gradutes. Lately though... I've been thinking he's attracted to this other teacher. He's been working with her on the "Healing Value of Magnets" and for some reason I feel as if he's just stuck to her every evening rather then come home.well anyway, I'm no stranger to love, but we have rules to this relationship. My bf knows that what I want is a full commitment. This means that I want an open relationship (communication wise) I would be devisated if he was cheating, but when I talk to him I get feelings I don't get from any other guy that I've dated. It just hurts me that he thinks it's a game, it's worse that he's gonna play it like that.Please, don't tell me that I'm too blind to see.Help, should I give him up?Is he letting me down in this relationship?I don't want to run around anymore and if it comes to it I will say goodbye.All he's been doing lately is telling lies, and hurting me. Reply to this Question
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 I don't think your blind at all. I think or rather fear for you that you see well enough whats going on - the problem is the next step dealing with it which as your invested in this relationship heavily is going to be the most painful step.
Having said that, I would ask for some clarity. You move from vague statements - you think for 'some reason' something is going on with this other teacher to 'all he has been doing lately is telling lies and hurting me'. The last statement is definitive and concrete and I think it would help people answer if you added some clarity - lies about what? hurting you how?
Nonetheless, I think in this case from what I can tell the lack of concreteness is because your shot through with pain at what is going on. In short answer to your questions:-
Should I give him up ? If he is cheating then yes definitely.
Is he letting you down? Again, if he is cheating then the answer is yes, of course.
I think you know deep down what needs to be done here. Your challenge is not to see but to accept it and walk the walk; even if it is going to be over hot coals. Good luck and take care.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 Sorry hon, but if all he has been doing lately is telling lies and hurting you, I have to say he is no longer into you.
Sounds like he is a player and my suggestion is to let him go - he obviously likes the company of this other woman, so let him be.
You deserve better!
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