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writes:hii x i am having problems !my boyfriend is soo cute n phitt but at the moment he has been really down ! he wodnt tell me what wa wrong and every tym i asked him he luked lyk he is gonna cry ! i asked is best m8 n he told me dat he has been havin family issues ! ( his mum n dad split up a while ago n now his dad new girlfriend has kicked his dad out the house ! so now his dad is sleepin in his mums house in his bed ! ) i feel soo sorry 4 him but i cnt say anythin because i proised his best m8t i wudnt ! please help ! ?( we have only been goin out 4 2 months ! )
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (23 June 2008):
 No problem :)
Glad it worked out for you!
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for the answer !! your advice really helped ! he told me exactly what happened n how i am able to give him hugs n kisses to comfort himm !! lol x laura x ......;)
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (22 June 2008):
There's nothing much you can do other than just support him and comfort him. You could say something like this:
"Please listen to me, just for a few minutes. You mean a lot to me and it really cuts me up to see you so upset lately. I really want to help you and take care of you but I feel a bit pushed away. Please talk to me, you know you can trust me and I will keep it between you and me but I feel helpless and a bit emotionally cut off from you. Please, talk to me."
Ensure you use phrases that do not accuse him. For example : "I worried that" and " I feel" other wise you will get no where.
If he still won't talk to you, don't keep nagging him about it, just try to be there for him.
If you really do feel totally and utterly cut off from him in time, I think it's best that you end it because it seems he feels unable to talk to you and tell you how he feels and there may come a point when you just feel like you can't do anything and I think at this point you may have to break up with him. A main part of relationship building is communication and if he's not giving that to you, it's time to let him go.
Take care xx
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