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writes: My boyfriend broke up with me because he said that I am too good for him and that he is not sure if I am the one who he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Last year he was making plans for us to get married but all of a sudden changed his mind this year and said that his feelings for me has changed all of a sudden. He says that I love him more than he loves me and that I treat him too good. He also said that he is confused and stupid.My guy really sounds confused. I don't think those are real grounds for breaking up a relationship after 2 1/2 years. Can you please help me understand what I am dealing with here? Is he really confused? Did he get cold feet? Will he ever come around? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Do not talk to him anymore. Let him contact you and when he does, only answer for every three times he calls. Be really cold to him and uninterested on the phone and make him realize how much you mean to him. Be scarce! Do not go over just to visit, do not call just to talk, make him come to you. You deserve nothing less and you should realize that maybe he doesn't deserve you and you should find someone deserving of your love. I know what you're going through. My boyfriend asked for a break a while ago and nothing has changed. You need to decide what is right for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): I think he just wanted to brake up before the relationship, went any farther. It's just an excuse, he got cold feet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): if he feels that way he is not for you. just let him go. its hard enough for people to be open and honest, dont make it worse by trying to over analyze it. plus...enjoy being single again!....being single are great times!....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): Hi, there! The man (handsome, a wee shorty, good person and sweet) I was dating broke up with me 1 week ago and I am accepting it (It doesn't matter WHY he broke up with me, really...either he loves you or he doesn't) It is a pity and it hurts a little but what can I/you do?? NOTHING! I CAN'T FIX IT! Some times you loose, others you win. The sooner the better because I need a man who loves me and ADORES me and he didn´t. So, he was not the one. There would be someone else soon. I feel it, the same way I know he is not the one. Take care everyone. "It's the end of the relationship and I know it and I feel good..." Love is great! Next!!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (21 April 2005):
 Its a possibilty that hes found someone else. Ive had this happen to me before. a guy told once told me that he felt I loved him more than he loved me, and that he felt I did too much for him and he couldnt handle it anymore. He also tried saying he was the stupid one for going ahead with all the plans we had made and that, it had made him confused about what he wanted. We broke up and 2 weeks later I found out he had been seeing someone for the last 6 months of our relationship, I had no clue or inkling anything was wrong. The confusion issue suddenly made sense... he had security with me, love, plans etc, but with her he had the thrill of a new relationship.. so it was a case of what one did he choose! In the end men tend to choose the simpliest route... in this case it was to bolt as it probably had less complications to it. I suspect that something similar has happend here. I think you need to stop sitting there thinking about the whys and what ifs and move on.. He's confused and stupid.. let him go... dont waste your time sitting there waiting for someone who might not be what you want. Stop analyzing it... Hes made his choice and im afraid you are going to have to accept it... get yourself out there and find someone that is the one for you... Your the important one. If you and your now ex bf are meant to be together it will happen. For the time being leave well alone and make the most of being single... get out and about with friends, get on the dating scene... who knows the real Mr right could be just down the road!
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