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*atman
writes:okay so im not racest but my boyfriend don't like black people that much cuz of how they act and he don't like whites and blacks going out cuz he don't think its right, me and him fought about that for about a week and i still don't care about white people and black people going out but i agree with how they act at my school, anyway there are 2 black boys on my bus and they like me i told my boyfriend about them and we sometimes argue about it but one of them kissed me on the hand cuz he couldn't get to my face. so what should i do tell my boyfriend about it or not. i told him that i wuz scared to like anyone cuz every time i like someone we break up and we'll either break up again or he'll fight them. he thinks that when he fights for me the one who wins "gets" me and they don't i stay with my boyfriend, he said he ain't ganna fight over me any more but still wut shud i do tell him about the boy on my bus or not Plez help me out!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, batman +, writes (22 May 2007):
batman is verified as being by the original poster of the question but wut if he don't grow out of the racizim thing. ok i no it seems like he wants to "win me" but he said that he ain't ganna fight for me anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): He's 10 years old (or around that age) he'll probably grow out of this racism thing. Unless his family are like white supremacist folks...
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reader, batman +, writes (20 May 2007):
batman is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok but i love him and he loves me i'll bet you anything on that and to tell you the truth i can't keep nothing from him, i've never felt this way about anyone i've went out with i've always been able to lie too all the other guys-except him. Plez help me i really don't want us to argue or break up- ilove him, but he said he wo't fight no one over me anymore.
I really don't want to loose him, i told him if we break up 1 more time i might not go out with him for a while
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): I agree. If you tell your boyfriend you might cause a fight between your boyfriend and the other boys and you never know where that could end up.
If your boyfriend thinks girls choose a guy based on how physically strong they are then maybe he feels insecure about his other abilities?
Also maybe the black guys do act bad at school. But I bet as you get older, you will see if you can put any prejudice aside, that there are other reasons - not to do with skin color - that cause a difference in the way they behave.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (20 May 2007):
 No, if you want to be with this guy, don't tell him about the guy on the bus. He would most likely throw a fit and break up with you again, just as you said.
Your guy is not exactly a modern boy. In thinking that white people are better than others and believing that if he fights for a girl he'll get her as a "prize" he's making himself look like quite the Neanderthal. I find that kind of willingness to get into a fight quite a bad trait as you never know if he's someday going to turn his fists on you. Are you sure he's worth keeping?
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