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writes: My boyfriend is goin to Australia for 2 months on friday week and thinks it would be better if we broke up as it would be too hard on us to try and continue our relationship with the distance between us. I don't want do that and would be willig to try and make a go of things..... He doesn't seem to realise how much this is hurting and effecting me? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk update on my story so far…
As ye all already kno my boyf is off to Australia for 2 months 2morro. And the reason I wrote in the first place was that he wanted to break up before goin and I didn’t want that to happen…
So the outcome of it all is we are breaking up from 2morro… He feels it’s for the best, this way there’s no pressure on either of us to stay faithful (I mean I don’t want anyone else only him so that won’t be hard for me). I know we are together only a short time, 8 months is all but that doesn’t stop me from having feelings for him…
He tells me he’s mad about me, cares a lot for me and that I mean a lot to him!!! He said we can meet up when he comes back and see how we feel about each other and see what happens from there… He says now that he will ring & txt me & stay in contact with me while he’s over there but it won’t be the same… I kno its better than not hearing from him at all!! Is it just making things harder on me?
Last nite was the last time I will see him til he comes home in December! We went out for a meal, came home and watched the soaps on TV, went to bed, joked and talked a bit about everything. But at the same time it felt like we weren’t really “talking” about anything important… I’d say something if we were both in our teens but c’mon I’m 29 and he’s 32 for f**k sake!! So I don’t kno what to do or think…
I just wanted to update you all on my story really. Finally I would like to thank all of you for taking the time to read & reply with your kind words of encouragement and hope to my little dilemma, it does mean a lot to me… Thank you J
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx again and yeah its one way of looking at it as well. Maybe I'm just jumping the gun & panicing at the moment as he's not actually goin til 6th Oct!! But yeah it would be nice to maybe talk to you while he's gone if you didn't mind? Just been able to talk to some one else who's in the same situation helps :)
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reader, confused3473  +, writes (27 September 2006):
 Hey babe I'm the person who replied to you yesterday.
You are deff not the only one feeling like this I have another sugestion I dont know if it will help you MAybe it just helps me as my mind trys to find ways to help me feel better
If my bf is away for 2 months I try to think of it as 8 weeks ( i know this sounds weird but bare with me) Once he has been away for 4 weeks i move onto days I think changing the way of thinking about it helps (it helps me so can hopefully help you)
I have also taken up a class at my local gym Again sounds daft but you would be suprised how quickly the day of your class comes around.
Like i said before, i wont kid you as its hard but hopefully will work out
Everyone who has beenn with their partners for a long time says that they would luv if the went away for a while and left them alone which i totally dont get We obv just dont think like that
If you ever want to private message me feel free Would luv to hear from you and help more if i can
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reader, Toria +, writes (27 September 2006):
 All you can do is try and see how it goes, if you both can't keep it up or find it too hard then at least you know you tried.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice - its good to know I'm not the only one out there feeling like this :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): Babe my advice is to stick at it if the only reason he wants to call it a day is that he is going away.
Im not gonna kid you,its hard work but with msn and texts it can be done
My bf is in the army and goes away for up to 6 weeks at a time Its hard but we keep in contact and look forward to seeing each other
While he is away try to arrange a time when you can both chat on msn Try not to text too much (something that im working on right now)and give him space but when you do text take a interest in what he is doing and tell him what you have been up to Say your missing him but have had a good time with mates so he knows your still getting on with life
It can work
Take care and good luck
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