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writes:I've gotten myself into a huge perdicament. The same problem that thousands of young girls get into every day.....i'm so annoyed i fell into the trap.So i'm pregnant, to a guy i've know scarcely 2 months. He's 23 and i'm 20. As soon as we found out, i was adament i would take the abortion pill, (i'm currently 6 weeks. We ordered the pill online, and i am currently waiting on it to arrive.I simply feel much too young, and not settled to have a baby. And the fact that it wasn't a carless mistake getting pregnant (i was taking the pill correctly) makes me even more against the idea of ruining my life with a baby.I am at university, and had planned to go travelling in September. As with most people, i am clearly not prepared for this. I have a great family, but i know it would literally break my mother's heart if i told her i was pregnant. So i definatley don't want to do that. I'm not exactly financially dependant either, i'm living with my parents, and i have no savings or anything. I'm just a student.I was so set in my ways about getting rid of the baby, for thousands of reasons. But as each day goes on, i'm growing more and more attached to the fact that i have created a human being, and it is growing inside me. I'm talking myself over, trying to convince myself that maybe i could make this work. And for all my selfish reasons above, perhaps i shouldn't have an abortion to suit myself.I have 6 nephews who i am all close to, and when i see them, i am guilt ridden. How could i kill off a potential baby????I literally don't know what to think. I think i will be full of regret no matter what choice i make. From the moment i found out, i have been taken careful precautions to ensure the baby is okay, just incase. The 'father' (luckily) is all hands on deck, and offering any kind of support going. He is letting the decision rest in my hands though.How do i figure out what i really want? And what is really best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): im a little younger than youim 16i have a one year oldthe father of my child was older than me.he said he'd support me no matter what!he was my best friend we wernt in a relationship.but unfortunatly he died 3 weeks after my son was born!when i told my parents, they were so disapointed in me!i was going to go onto six form go to uni and make somthing of my life!i got 8 A*'s in my GCSE'sBut i couldnt go onto six form as i decided to devote my time to my son!I love him to bits but i could have done so much more if i hadnt been so stupid!Think of the child!you might be thinking you cant kill him hes your child!but your finacialy unstable!How are you gunna cope? what kind of life is he going to have if you cant support yourself never mind a child?!Do what you thinks best!But remember your mum brought you into this world hoping for the best for you like you would him/herShe wanted you to make somthing of yourself! you cant do that with a child!personaly i would terminate the pregnancyy for your sake and the babys!Good luck whatever you decide love myaz xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): I think you should write down all the pros and cons, that will help you make a decision. That is what my friend did who was in the exact same position and she has never looked back.
I wouldn't think of it as a baby either as its smaller than a kidney bean.
Sorry if thats sounds harsh. Whatever you decide to do you will always feel guilty about your decision.
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Talk to a professional about it, I feel this is too big of a deal to give you any view I have but they will be able to give you the best advice anyone could. That is after all, why they are professionals.
Best of luck.
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