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writes:Hi everypne Need a bit of adviceMy bf is quite pissed off about work at the momentI know its not about me but somethimes he can come accross a bit harsh because of thisWhat should i do Should i try to talk to him about it or leave it and carry on as if nothing has happened and just wait until if/when he brings up the subjectThanks x x Reply to this Question
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reader, camille +, writes (28 September 2006):
 It's hard for you too as his feelings effect you. It's good that you've so far been tolerant and pateint. That's probably the support he needs, but he can't continue to be harsh toward you. Try to do something nice that will cheer him up. If it works, maybe tell him why you planned it. Also, jointly plan to make it a regular thing. But make sure you're still getting attention and things too though, don't let it all be one sided. If it's not well received, that's a good opportunity to point out the effort you went to. Tell him that you're really trying and if you could do anything you would but it's not your fault.
The next time he takes frustraion out on you, again just quietly say that it's not your fault and you don't feel it fair to be on the receiving end. It's natural for him to do this, but that doesn't excuse it, so you have a right to tell him how you feel and the knock on effect his problems are having on you and in turn, that could be a potential risk to the relationship. Hopefully he'll try harder.
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
 I would talk to him maybe him telling you what it is thats getting him down with work may help in getting it off his chest, you could also tell him how you feel as he probably doesn't realse that because of his problems with work you are suffering and he is taking some of his mood out on you.
You can only really be there for him and support him in what he wants to do.
Good luck :o)
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