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writes: Is it normal not to get the horn when you get off with a really good looking guy whose personality you don't like even if you feel just to have a go with him just for trying? This happen to me witb my ex when trying to initiate intercourse I couldn't get away the idea that I was not doing the right thing and felt down...I kept telling him I loved him but I didn't stand him do you think I have a sexual problem or something then I go off with this guy who turned me on but he didn't care so I blocked and said no to sex again.. I'm scared I have a mental problem about sexany opinions welcomed love
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reader, camille +, writes (28 September 2006):
It's not a mental problem but the brain is an integral pasrt of sex so don't dismiss that your brain is sending you messages, don't ignore them. You are obviously someone who needs to feel more than just sexual attraction to have sex and there is nothing wrong with that. He needs to tick all your boxes; fanciable and likeable. Just choose your partners carefully and don't leap into bed with any Tom, Dick or Harry as that's not obviously working for you. Wait til you find a man who turns you on mentally and physically. He's out there. Good luck.
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
I think we all suffer from worries and concerns regarding sex and relationships and your mind is a powerful thing and can control how your body reacts to someone or something.
You need to relax and take things as they come, if your worried about not doing something right or them not liking something then try saying to them that you want them to tell you what they want and like and most men will be happy to as it makes the experiance better for them.
We all have to start somewhere and learn from trying and possibly failing a few times before we succeed.
I wouldn't just sleep with someone that you don't like I would wait until you are with someone that care for and that cares for you and someone that you can trust to take things slowly and help you through this.
Good luck :o)
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