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reader, esmerelda +, writes (26 April 2006):
... sounds to me like he's a bit insecure - maybe he's new to relationships? or has had his 'techniques' laughed at by past partners? my boyfriend's the same; out of spite, one of his exes spread some gossip about what he's like in the bedroom. this was long ago, but he's still hung up about it. i reckon you should tell him as often as feels comfortable what he does that feels good, not obsessively so, but just often enough for his ego to grow bit by bit. tell him what you like about him. tell him how happy you are with him. sounds like what he needs is a girlfriend who'll restore a bruised or non-existent ego!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): Hi anonymousWhen you next feel comfortable to talk about this tell him all the things he does that makes you feel satisfied. e.g. If you like him doing something a certain way, tell him. Once you've told him all the things that make you feel satisfied, he'll feel great. Then of course it's his turn to tell you what does it for him.If you can have this conversation with ease, you could try moving on to things that he does wrong, or things that he doesn't do but you'd like him to do. Then visa-versa. If you can get through both of these discussions no doubt your sex life will be even better.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 April 2006):
 Tell him, reassure him the next time he indicates that he has doubts. You'll be able to convince him with a little time. He sounds like he just has low self-esteem which can be raised slowly over time. Be patient. Good luck.
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