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writes:Hi i was just wondering are these the actions of a man who loves me. My boyfriend said he needed space after i had a miscarriage. The next day after this i was very upset as i could not understand how he could turn so cold towards me. He came back home told me to pack my things and go he says it was because i had gone out for 5 hours and not been in contact with him i just needed some space to get my head around everything why he was being so awful with me we were together a year and i loved him so much we knew each other for 5 year before we got together any suggestions what i should do thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2013): OP take some time and space away from him. You're not the only one dealing with the grief. Most guys feel that pain just as acutely as our partner does. Lots can't handle that kind of grief well at all and blame, guilt, anger, overreaction can all be normal but obviously should not be tolerated.
Take some time apart, you both need to heal from your loss and you both need time to come to terms with what has happened.
Even if he calls you tomorrow and says sorry, please come back. Take a few weeks away from each other to take stock and get your head together.
Not a break up or break, just space and time to heal.
Best of luck OP.
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reader, Hollyhock +, writes (27 May 2013):
I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage - I know from personal experience what a horrible and distressing thing a miscarriage is.
It sounds to me like your boyfriend is also grieving, but his grief is showing by him rejecting those around him that he loves. He appears to need space to think and come to terms with what has happened.
Hard though it will be, I suggest that you give him the space he has asked for so that he can get his head around what has happened.
In the meantime, make sure that you are with family and friends who love you and will help you through this difficult time.
I do so hope that things start to look brighter for you both very soon.
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