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writes:If my boyfriend has neglected me for over 3 months and counting, should I break up with him? He might be working on something, or studying for finals, but that might not be it. I have also found another man but I haven't met him in real life, and I haven't confirmed his feelings for me. My current boyfriend hasn't spoken to me regularly like usual for a month now. Something may have happened to him, but I'm not sure what. Speaking to my online friend makes me think that we share more similar interests than my current boyfriend. I've been wondering whether or not I should break up with him or not. I don't think anyone would ignore someone for three months to study for finals. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2016): This is the question asker that forgot her account info:@HoneypieI don't think I should go so far to delete him from my life, I mean that's a little too harshI agree that I should just stay single until college, thanks for answering@Andie's ThoughtsI can't really ask my boyfriend why he isn't answering me, we're in a long-distance relationship and he moved but he hasn't told me where, so I can't actually confront him about itSchool isn't that hard because he's a straight-a student that never does more than he should. He had over 7 weeks to talk to me(2 weeks of spring break and a bunch of weekends).My boyfriend hasn't even said a single word to me for almost 3 months and countingMaybe I'm not ready for a relationship maybe I am, but maybe he's already left me.(My boyfriend is one year older than me, the man I found is 5 years older than me)I'm sure I know who he is (Communication of video chat, voice chat and IM's).Thank you for answering@Fatherly AdviceThank you for answering. I kinda feel like you're a psychologist because you hit the nail right on the head. Thank you for restating the 3 major points of a relationship and telling me how to break up with him@Everyone concernedI'll give him the whole summer to say something, if nothing is said, I'll break up with him
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (31 May 2016):
 Well to be cynical, your Boyfriend has already left you. But, why worry about that you have already left him.
As far as practical advice. A relationship includes as critical components, meeting the needs of your partner, communication, trust, and fidelity. Your boyfriend is not providing the first two. As a result you feel disconnected. Because of that feeling you have lost trust in him. (You have suspicions) You have stopped providing fidelity by searching for companionship outside of the relationship. As far as a break up goes you should probably keep it simple and low emotion. Return anything of his you may have and say you are sorry it didn't work out.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (31 May 2016):
 Firstly, if the person you've found is a man, he's too old for you, at 16 - 17. If he's about your age, he's a boy/young man. I know that might sound like nit-picking, but it's an important detail.Anyway, to respond to each paragraph:- If you feel he's neglecting you and you don't know why, ask him, instead of starting to move on.- Again, if you're not sure why he's not been speaking to you properly, you need to ask him.- You're sort of emotionally cheating, if you speak to your online friend like you're interested in being with him, whilst you're still in a relationship.- Many people need to block out distractions for finals; they set them up for life, relationships at this age don't normally last as long and shouldn't take priority over anyone's education.Has he literally not spoken to you at all or just not as often? What do you mean he hasn't spoken to you properly for a month? You call him your "current boyfriend", like you're all ready to move on - like you've already started by talking to this guy.Honestly, I think that you aren't ready for a relationship if you can't communicate with your boyfriend and start moving on to someone else without even knowing what's going on with your current relationship. It's very possible he's (rightly) prioritised his studies over you. You won't know unless you ask, without accusing him of anything. Forget this other guy; you'll just bounce from one relationship to another - do you know for sure that he is who he says he is? Video chat?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 May 2016):
 I think your "BF" has ghosted you. (which means he has dumped you with out really telling you, so HE won't see like a "bad" guy).
I would consider myself single he is doesn't respond to your messages, text or calls and I would then block and delete him from my life.
I would NOT go chasing after #2 just yet. Maybe you need to consider that this whole dating someone you REALLY don't spend time with... is not the greatest idea.
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