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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: My boyfriend and I are ready to have sex, but my boyfriend doesn't like condoms and there's no way I'm having sex without protection. There's no concern about STD's, so what other options are out there? I'm sure he'll eventually break down and just use the condom, but what other options are out there?I've heard of a spermicidal jelly, but how does it work? Is it very expensive? How reliable is it? Thank you in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): if your so ready as you say 2 have sex..then you are ready to tell him that no sex without condoms..ok pal..lol i mean if u both have had std's aid and all teh crap tested for you can use birth controll..or somthing if tha'ts all your worried about..
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reader, Jenn_Loves_Him +, writes (3 January 2007):
i think you should talk to him about useing a condom tell him the bad things about not useing a condom for example you both can get very sick if anyone of you have STD'S or anything liek that the good thing is that you guys could have sex and still be protected form any harm due to not useing a condom or what i would do is get him a book or a panflit of STD's
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reader, hugs2muchgal  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 there are alot of different options for birth control other than a male condom!
(i actually learned them all earlier)
for the male birth control- condom, vasectomy (dont reccomend if the male ever wants children)
for women- female condom, the pill, nuva ring, the patch, the shot, tubal ligation(more permanent), IUD's etc
there are also things like the family plan (planning around ovulation cycle) and the withdrawal method (pulling penis out though that is only 75% effective) and these dont take anything
good luck but know that you can depend on yourself and you dont have to have your boyfriend decide when to have safe sex or not
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reader, katiemarie +, writes (2 January 2007):
 hi,
There are many other forms of protection but as you are aware not all are 100%.
Not that it is down to the women to stay protected it should be both of you but its mainly women that care.
You could try using the pill, or the coyle which you keep inside you for three years. There is also a rod you can have in your arm which is also a three year protection.
You could have a chat with you local nurse she will help you with the best and right protection for you and its confidential.
I wouldnt use one off contoseption like the gel or the morning after pill if your gonna use protection plan ahead with it.
best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2007): hey if he really cares about you he won't ask you something your not comfortable doing cuz you are doing the right thing he should use a condom good luck christmas
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 You tell him there will be no sex until he starts to like condoms. Or, talk to a doctor about options.
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reader, stina +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Hi Anon,I suggest making an appointment with your doctor to find out about various methods of birth control: pills, the ring, the shot, iuds, etc. (I would avoid the patch becuase it's been linked to causing deaths from issues w/ blockage.) As for the jelly you mentioned, it's not as good as using condoms. In fact, many times you can find this info out on the box.Here is a website with lots of info on various bc methods out there, too: http://www.4woman.gov/faq/birthcont.htm#twoIf you don't have the money to visit the doctor, then I suggest looking for a free clinic near you. Perhaps a Plannet Parenthood is in your area (not sure where you live). They charge a minimal amount for a three month pill supply.Take care.
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