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writes:Hi every one. Today i was on my boyfriend of two years computer. When i wen to type a website in the address box a list of previous websites came up. There was a single chat room one and one like face party but you meet people on there for sex. I burst in to tears when i saw this, i have spoke to him about it and he said its wear he uses other peoples wireless internet. He told me that when he gets home we will unplug his ineternet and i can take it home with me. I realy think he does love me,last week he was talking about how he wants a baby with me.Please help i dont want to get hurt!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): my boyfriend has a faceparty account and i want to find out what he;s been doing on it as i typed in his member name into google and it came up a link with a comment he had made on a private picture (you have to pay to look at these nude images) Now i really want to see what hes doing. How can i get in to his account?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): i don't buy the wireless internet excuese, but just becuase he goes to one of those sites doesn't mean he's going there to meet people. i used to go on them and pretend i was like a 12-year old girl and say some nasty things and then like call them sick freaks and i'm actually a 40 year old guy and i was going to track their screen name and have them arrested for saying such things, just for the sake of screwing with some people. (as i am not some 40 year old guy.) but maybe thats just me. maybe he's just curious but isn't doing anything real seriously and feels embarrased about it/doesn't want to hurt you. if he's willing to unplug his internet for you then don't give up hope, he obvoiusly cares for you. just see how things go
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): He probably isn't cheating on you, chat rooms like this which suggest meets rarely deliver. The most users usually get up to is picture trading and flirting, maybe, just maybe, he might even role-play with other users.
Chances are he has some sort of fetish which he's looking for someone to fulfill, either ignore it and let him have his fun on an anonymous chat board or discuss it with him and see if it's something you can fulfill with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): If he really did love you he wouldn't be seeking out other girls on sex sites then LYING TO YOU ABOUT IT! And, on top of that, it's a bad lie! He must really think you are stupid to believe it - it doesn't even make a lick of sense!
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 I completely agree with what everyone has said so far. However it does seem like after you busted him out (even if he gave you a piss-poor lying excuse afterwards) he's trying to make amends by giving you his computer. That's not to say he won't continue on another one but at least he's trying to show you that he acknowledges his wrongdoing. He definitely needs to apologize to you and beg your forgiveness and even then you may still find yourself doubting him. Whatever you decide to do (as long as it doesn't involve having a kid with him at your age) I wish you the best.
On another note (and I know this is probably an inappropriate time to say this) I don't think that people seem to realize that it is soooo easy to even accidentally stumble upon what others have been doing on their computer. Even if you erase the history, it's still there. So to all you cheaters out there, be aware of this. I'd give out tips on how to cover your tracks... but that would just be wrong:)
-Jmo
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 April 2008):
He says he hacks into people's internet accounts on sex chat rooms? Sorry but that sounds like utter rubbish to me.
Some girls think it is fine for their bloke to go and look at porn or use chat rooms. Personally I think it's almost as bad as cheating.
It's up to you whether you split up with him over this. You have been together a long time and if he is your age then he is probably just curious.
But if you decide to give him another chance, he needs to be honest with you about what he's been getting up to online. Then he needs to stop it. He's let you take home his computer so that is a sign he wants to make things better.
Talk to him about it and set down rules about what you don't think it is acceptable to do online. Then you have to forgive him and let him re-earn your trust.
Good Luck xx
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (2 April 2008):
 um.
i use a wireless network and i don't end up with sex chat rooms for singles on my computer.
what is logged on his computer is what he himself has viewed
and further more.WHAT THE STINKING CRAP FILLED HELL!!!
you're 16-17!! NO BABIES FOR YOU. too young.
and i know blah blah blah you get that on a daily basis.. thats because you are. if you're stupid enough to believe his bs then you're also too young to have a kid.
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