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30-35,
anonymous
writes:me and my boyfriend are engaged and have been togather for along time. every thing seems to be great we rarely ever get in to big fights. But i saw on facebook that he is using this app called zoosk witch is a dating website. and his bestfriend witch is also now my bestfriend told me that last weekend thay hanged out and my bf was on a site called plenty of fish. How should i handle this situation and bring it up? He already thinks i can be jelos and insecure (but i sorta am because all my ex's has cheated on me witch he knows) I know my boyfriend can be flirty ut i know it has never gone past that. So is it a big deal if he still doesnt do any thing?? or should he be not on period? Thank you
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (10 May 2012):
 I agree with the other answerer. I think you need to determine if his activities are recent are not and put a stop to it.
You do state that you have been together for quite some time, so my guess is that he is exploring the dating world. Whether he's actually made contact with anybody else is beyond me, but if you are truly engaged (have a wedding date / ring / etc) then this would be a HUGE red flag. That would mean your boyfriend isn't mature enough to settle down with one woman and he's curious to see what else is out there.
I think you need to confront him about his activities and make a determination on your own to see if he is truly ready to commit to you for the rest of his life (and forsake all other women). My guess, is that if he is the same age as you (18-21), he wants to do a bit more exploring before settling down.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): Confront him, tell him your friend mentioned to you that he was on a dating site and ask why he would be on one seems he's not single, engaged in fact!
Fair enough if your partner created an account before you got together and he just hasn't been on it since, but if he's gone out of his way to create one whilst being with you, then that isn't right.
Ask him why he's on one and if he goes on it, why he feels the need to. Your engaged he should be thinking of you and no one else.
Good luck x
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