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writes:Hi I need help here, I have a 7 month boyfriend, he is wonderfull, he treats me really nice, we share strong feelings for each other, and the sex is GREAT. My problem is that now we are seeing each other like 3 times a week, he works very hard, he is going to collegue( full time) and basically he doesn't have a lot of free time, I know he has give up time with his friends in order to spend time with me. The thing here is like I do want to spend time with him, because god knows how much I love him, but i am afraid that he would fail in his job, college etc, because sometimes I call him to go out and he has never told me no, but them when he gets home at 1am or 2am he start doing some work, so that makes me feel kind of guilty, but at the same time i think I am being reasonable in seeing each other 3 times a week, can someone tell me if I am feeling guilty when I shouldn't or not? I have never been a bitch. Reply to this Question
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reader, little_goth_bladez  +, writes (18 September 2008):
that sounds fair see him 3 times a week im surehe thinks about you but you have to let him work hard as well as haveing fun
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reader, zelgamer +, writes (18 September 2008):
 If you are feeling guilty it's becomes you feel you are doing something wrong. I would say if you love him that much, to continue enduring this if you are willing to.I highly recommend you talk to him, communication is very important, if you sit down and talk with him, see where his mind is at. If he really doesn't care about spending the free time he has with you, or if it's to much for him, and that will let you know for sure if you need to give him even more time to himself or if things should continue as they are. If his grades and job aren't suffering from spending time with him, then I really don't see a problem, as for his friends, maybe you can schedule sometime together and with friends, and that way you aren't taking away from his friendships. You are important in his life it would seem from what you are saying, but people need to have friends too. I hope what I have had to say helps you some. That's my advice. Take care and I wish you the best of luck.
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