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writes: My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years just told me last night that he cheated on me. The act took place last night as well so I guess I should be grateful that he came to me right away. I don't know how I should feel about this. He didn't have sex with her. No clothes were taken off. It was more of her coming on top of him and sort of taking advantage of him. He told me he was extremely sorry. He was having anxiety attacks over it. I really love this man with all my heart. He is my soul mate. I want to forgive him but I don't know if I can. I don't think I can ever completely forget about this incident. I know this was a one time thing but I just can't get it out of my head. Will I be able to forgive him eventually? Do I just need more time to sort through my feelings? I really don't know how I should be feeling. I feel really numb. I do feel hurt and betrayed but still very numb. Like I don't care as much as I should.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): Forgiveness is something that each individual should practice/live every moment of their lives.
Forgiveness is key to every dynamic of a relationship if you believe and want to be a very loving person.
I also say remember the rule of threes:
One lie, one broken promise, or a single neglected responsibility may be an misunderstanding instead. Two may involve a serious mistake. BUT three lies says you're dealing with a liar, and deceit is the linchpin of conscienceless behaviour. Cut your losses and get out as soon as you can. Leaving, though it may be hard, will be easier now than later, and less costly.
Do not give your money, your work, your secrets, or your affection to a three-timer. Your valuable gifts will be wasted. (taken from the book by Martha Stout, titled; "The Sociopath Next Door"
Also seek after some individual counselling and give couple's counselling a go as well.
Best of Wishes.
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reader, lucyloo135 +, writes (5 September 2006):
 hi hunni
from what you have just said this guy seems pretty genuine, ok people make mistakes an im not saying its alrite to cheat because its absolutley unexeptable but you clearly love this man and i think he deserves another chance for being so honest.
i hope im right in thinking this good look, lucy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): How do you define cheating? Does the fact that he says there was no sex makes it less of a betrayal to you? Guys would do anything to be forgiven and taken back once they cheated. Read about this in: www.relationship-affairs.com/Unfaithfulness.html
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